A very famous book came out in 2001, called The Art of Seduction, by Robert Greene. In it, he analyses history to discuss what he has isolated as the 24 most important seduction techniques. While some of them might seem a bit extreme, I think you’ll all agree they’re food for thought. Let us know if you find any useful!

1. Choose the Right Victim

Everything depends on the target of your seduction.  Study your prey thoroughly, and choose only those who will prove susceptible to your charms.  The right victims are those for whom you can fill a void, who see in you something exotic.  They are often isolated or unhappy, or can easily be made so—for the completely contented person is almost impossible to seduce.  The perfect victim has some quality that inspires strong emotions in you, making your seductive maneuvers seem more natural and dynamic.  The perfect victim allows for the perfect chase.

2. Create a False Sense of Security – Approach Indirectly

If you are too direct early on, you risk stirring up a resistance that will never be lowered.  At first there mist be nothing of the seducer in you manner.  The seduction should begin at an angle, indirectly, so that the target only gradually becomes aware of you.  Haunt the periphery of your target’s life—approach through a third party, or seem to cultivate a relatively neutral relationship, moving gradually from friend to lover.  Lull the target into feeling secure, then strike.

3. Send Mixed Signals

Once people are aware of your presence, and perhaps vaguely intrigued, you need to stir their interest before it settles on someone else.  Most of us are much too obvious—instead, be hard to figure out.  Send mixed signals: both tough and tender, both spiritual and earthly, both innocent and cunning.  A mix of qualities suggests depth, which fascinates even as it confuses.  And elusive, enigmatic aura will make people want to known more, drawing them into you circle.  Create such a power by hinting at something contradictory within you.

4. Appear to Be an Object of Desire – Create Triangles

Few are drawn to the person whom others avoid or neglect; people gather around those who have already attracted interest.  To draw your victims closer and make them hungry to possess you, you must create and aura of desirability—of being wanted and court by many.  It will become a point of vanity for them to be the preferred object of your attention, to win you away from a crowd of admirers.  Build a reputation that precedes you: If many have succumbed to your charms, there must be a reason.

5. Create a Need – Stir Anxiety and Discontent

A perfectly satisfied person cannot be seduced.  Tension and disharmony must be instilled in your targets’ minds.  Stir within them feelings of discontent, and unhappiness with their circumstances and with themselves.  The feelings of inadequacy that you create will give you space to insinuate yourself, to make them see you as the answer to their problems.  Pain and anxiety are the proper precursors to pleasure.  Learn to manufacture the need that you can fill.

6. Master the Art of Insinuation

Making your targets feel dissatisfied and in need of your attention is essential, but if you are too obvious, they will see through you and grow defensive.  There is no known defense, however, against insinuation—the art of planting ideas in people’s minds by dropping elusive hints that take root days later, even appearing to them as their own idea.  Create a sublanguage—bold statements followed by retraction and apology, ambiguous comments, banal talk combined with alluring glances—that enters the target’s unconscious to convey your real meaning.  Make everything suggestive.

7. Enter Their Spirit

Most people are locked in their own worlds, making them stubborn and hard to persuade.  The way to lure them out of their shell and set up your seduction is to enter their spirit.  Play by their rules, enjoy what they enjoy, adapt yourself to their moods.  In doing so you will stroke their deep-rooted narcissism and lower their defenses.  Indulge your targets’ every mood and whim, giving them nothing to react against or resist.

8. Create Temptation

Leave the target deep into your seduction by creating the proper temptation: a glimpse of the pleasures to come.  As the serpent tempted Eve with the promise of forbidden knowledge, you must awaken a desire in your targets that they cannot control. Find that weakness of theirs, that fantasy that has yet to be realized, and hint that your can lead them toward it.  The key is to keep it vague.  Stimulate a curiosity stronger than the doubts and anxieties that go with it, and they will follow you.

9. Keep Them In Suspense – What Comes Next?

The moment people feel they know what to expect from you, your spell on them is broken.  More: Your have ceded them power.  The only way to lead the seduced along and keep the upper hand is to create suspense, a calculated surprise.  Doing something they do not expect from you will give them a delightful sense of spontaneity—they will not be able to foresee what comes next.  You are always one step ahead and in control.  Give the victim a thrill with a sudden change of direction.

10. Use the Demonic Power of Words to Sow Confusion

It is hard to make people listen; they are consumed with their own thoughts and desires, and have little time for yours.  The trick to making them listen is to say what they want to hear, to fill their ears with whatever is pleasant to them.  This is the essence of seductive language.  Inflame people’s emotions with loaded phrases, flatter them, comfort their insecurities, envelop them in sweet words and promises, and not only will they listen to you, they will lose their will to resist you.

11. Pay Attention to Detail

Lofty words of love and grand gestures can be suspicious: Why are you trying so hard to please?   The details of a seduction—the subtle gestures, the offhand things you do—are often more charming and revealing.  You must learn to distract your victims with a myriad of pleasant little rituals—thoughtful gifts tailored just for them, clothes and adornments designed to please them, gestures that show the time and attention you are paying them.  Mesmerized by what they see, they will not notice what your are really up to.

12. Poeticize Your Presence

Important things happen when your targets are alone: The slightest feeling of relief that you are not their, and it is all over.  Familiarity and overexposure will cause the reaction.  Remain elusive, then.  Intrigue your targets by alternating an exciting presence with a cool distance, exuberate moments followed by calculated absences.  Associate yourself with poetic images and objects, so that when they think of you, they begin to see you through an idealized halo.  The more you figure in their minds, the more they will envelope you in seductive fantasies.

13. Disarm Through Strategic Weakness and Vulnerability

Too much maneuvering on your part may raise suspicion.  The best way to cover your tracks is to make the other person feel superior and stronger.  If you seem to be weak, vulnerable, enthralled by the other person, and unable to control yourself, you will make your actions look more natural, less calculated.  Physical weakness—tears, bashfulness, paleness—will help create the effect.  Play the victim, then transform your target’s sympathy into love.

14. Confuse Desire and Reality – The Perfect Illusion

To compensate for the difficulties in their lives, people spend a lot of their time daydreaming, imagining a future full of adventure, success, and romance.  If your can create the illusion that through you they can live out their dreams, you will have tem at your mercy.  Aim at secret wishes that have been thwarted or repressed, stirring up uncontrollable emotions, clouding their powers of reason.  Lead the seduced to a point of confusion in which they can no longer tell the difference between illusion and reality.

15. Isolate the Victim

An isolated person is weak.  By slowly isolating your victims, you make them more vulnerable to your influence.  Take them away from their normal milieu, friends, family, home.  Give them the sense of being marginalized, in limbo—they are leaving one world behind and entering another.  Once isolated like this, they have no outside support, and in their confusion they are easily led astray.  Lure the seduced into your lair, where nothing is familiar.

16. Prove Yourself

Most people want to be seduced.  If they resist your efforts, it is probably because you have not gone far enough to allay their doubts—about your motives, the depth of your feelings, and so on.  One well-timed action that shows how far you are willing to go to win them over will dispel their doubts.  Do not worry about looking foolish or making a mistake—any kind of deed that is self-sacrificing and for your target’s sake will so overwhelm tie emotions, they won’t notice anything else.

17. Effect a Regression

People who have experienced a certain kind of pleasure in the past will try to repeat or relive it.  The deepest-rooted and most pleasurable memories are usually those from earliest childhood, and are often unconsciously associated with a parental figure.  Bring your targets back to that point by placing yourself in the oedipal triangle and positioning them as the needy child.  Unaware of he cause of their emotional response, they will fall in love with you.

18. Stir Up the Transgressive and Taboo

There are always social limits on what one can do.  Some of these, the most elemental taboos, go back centuries; others are more superficial, simply defining polite and acceptable behavior.  Making your targets feel that you are leading them past either kind of limit is immensely seductive.  People yearn to explore their dark side. Once the desire to transgress draws your target to you, it will be hard for them to stop.  Take them farther than they imagined—the shared feeling of guild and complicity will create a powerful bond.

19. Use Spiritual Lures

Everyone has doubts and insecurities—about their body, their self-worth, their sexuality.  If your seduction appeals exclusively to the physical, you will stir up these doubts and make your targets self-conscious.  Instead, lure them out of their insecurities by making them focus on something sublime and spiritual: a religious experience, a lofty work of art, the occult.  Lost in a spiritual mist, the target will feel light and uninhibited.  Deepen the effect of your seduction by making its sexual culmination seem like the spiritual union of two souls.

20. Mix Pleasure and Pain

The greatest mistake in seduction is being too nice.  At first, perhaps, your kindness is charming, but it soon grows monotonous; you are trying too hard to please, and seem insecure.  Instead of overwhelming your targets with niceness, try inflicting some pain.  Make them feel guilty and insecure.  Instigate a breakup—now a rapprochement, a return to your earlier kindness, will turn them weak at the knees.  The lower the lows you create, the greater the highs.  To heighten the erotic charge, create the excitement of fear.

21. Give Them Space to Fall – The Pursuer Is Pursued

If your targets become too used to you as the aggressor, they will give less of their own energy, and the tension will slacken.  You need to wake them up, turn the tables.  Once they are under your spell, take a step back and they will start to come after your.  Hint that your are growing bored.  Seem interested in someone else.  Soon they will want to possess you physically, and restraint will go out the window.  Create the illusion tat the seducer is being seduced.

22. Use Physical Lures

Targets with active minds are dangerous: If they see through your manipulations, they may suddenly develop doubts.  Put their minds gently to rest, and waken their dormant senses, by combining a nondefensive attitude with a charged sexual presence.  While your cool, nonchalant air is lowering their inhibitions, your glances, voice, and bearing—oozing sex and desire—are getting under their skin and raising their temperature.  Never force the physical; instead infect your targets with heat, lure them into lust.  Morality, judgment, and concern for the future will melt away.

23. Master the Art of the Bold Move

A moment has arrived:  Your victim clearly desires you, but is not ready to admit it openly, let alone act on it.  This is the time to throw aside chivalry, kindness, and coquetry and to overwhelm with a bold move.  Don’t give the victim time to consider the consequences.  Showing hesitation or awkwardness means you are thinking of yourself, as opposed to being overwhelmed by the victim’s charms.  One person must on the offensive, and it is you.

24. Beware of the Aftereffects

Danger follows in the aftermath of a successful seduction.  After emotions have reached a pitch, they often swing in the opposite direction—towards lassitude, distrust, disappointment.  If you are to part, make the sacrifice swift and sudden.  If you are to stay in a relationship, beware a flagging of energy, a creeping familiarity that will spoil the fantasy.  A second seduction is required.  Never let the other person take you for granted—use absence, create pain and conflict, to keep the seduced on tenterhooks.

Nightclubs and bars are places conducive to picking up women who tickle your fancy. Part of the reason for that is that they’re places where women expect to be hit on, and so they’re not totally averse to the notion. Add to that the mood, lighting, and hazy glow associated with a little alcohol and you have a situation where you’ve got a better chance of picking up a woman than almost anywhere else. Plus (unless you know the woman is club-hopping) you’re likely to have most of the night available to win your target over. Here are 10 solid tips to help you on your way.

1. Display your interest

Before approaching your target, signal your interest by catching her eye or making an approving glance to gauge her reaction to you. Check out her reaction. Unless it’s overtly negative, keep letting her know from afar that you like what you’re looking at.

2. Lock in on your target

Scan the club and see if anyone catches your eye. If you see more than one woman who might make a good target, give precedence to one who is by herself, or at least with fewer companions. Observe her discreetly for awhile before making a move. You might pick up some information you can use later, either as a conversation starter or to avoid potentially awkward silences.

3. Territorial reconnaissance

Explore the club. Decide on the best location to plant yourself. Don’t put yourself too far away from the action. This could be at the bar, which will give you the opportunity to befriend the bartender, in the hope that he or she will give you priority service later on. Hopefully this will mean that while everybody else has to wait an inordinate amount of time, you can impress your target with the quick service you receive thanks to the groundwork you put in. Wherever you choose to be, make sure it is somewhere with good visibility that is centrally located; you don’t want to have to walk from one end of the place to another when you see someone you like.

4. Be direct

Women like to be credited with some intelligence. They know you’re hitting on them, so at least be upfront about it. Either ask her directly whether she’s alone and if she’d mind some company, or, if you have any flirt-game, ask her a question that requires a response. Even if she doesn’t respond the way you’re hoping, or doesn’t agree to your request, you can always use a little self-deprecating humor to save face. Say that you’ll just be on your way to the bathroom to cry for an hour because she’s crushed your burning romantic dream. She may appreciate your wit and ability to laugh at yourself, and change her mind.

5. Don’t waste time

If you wait too long to approach her you risk someone else getting there first. Don’t fear rejection. The worst thing that can happen is that she doesn’t respond to you. This happens to all men, the thing is not to let it stop you from continuing to try. It’s a numbers game. You’ll regret it more later if you didn’t try. And don’t assume by default that she’s going to be rude. Women are generally pleased that a guy has at least decided to be open about his attraction to them and has summoned up the courage to approach. Even if she isn’t interested, it’s most likely that she won’t be rude or cruel about it.

6. Ask if you can buy her a drink

Ask her what she’s drinking. If she’s almost finished, ask her if she’d like another one. Tell her you have some suggestions–you could tease her into trying something new, but don’t insist if she refuses. This is an opportunity to use innuendo to see how she reacts. For example, asking her if she likes “quickies”–hastening to add that you’re only talking about tequila shots. The idea here is to make her feel naughty and use tongue-in-cheek humor to set up a mood, without causing her to feel threatened or demeaned.

7. Enjoy the moment that you’re in

Assuming you get into the position of at least being in your target’s vicinity, focus on consolidating your position. Be attentive. Have fun. Make her laugh. Keep it light. Don’t try to dominate the conversation. Don’t lose yourself in the desire to think too far ahead–soak up the pleasure of the moment. Keep your eyes on her, yet don’t crowd her or get pushy/invasive. And for heavens’ sake don’t use the excuse that the nightclub is packed to act like a creep and rub yourself against her. Instead, let her feel reassured by your presence.

8. Get her dancing

If she’s enjoying a particular tune and things have proceeded well up to that point, ask her to join you on the dance floor. Avoid talking too much while dancing. Enjoy the music and let the rhythm take over. Ordinarily in a nightclub, the volume won’t lend itself to conversation, and such attempts will invariably become screaming matches. Don’t get too intimate with her on the dance floor unless she initiates it. Let her take the lead and put as much distance between the two of you as she needs to feel comfortable. Hum the lyrics if you like, but don’t sing out loud if you can’t carry a tune.

9. Keep your head clear

You definitely need your wits about you. Don’t drink too much, even if you think you can hold your liquor. The worst experience for a woman is for a guy to start slurring and coming on too strong without even being aware of it. It is a complete and total turn-off. Present yourself iniaitally as harmless and don’t try to impress her too much. If a woman gets comfortable with you, she’ll drop her guard and become more susceptible to what you have in mind.

10. Make your final move

After you’ve spent a good bit of time chatting with her, dancing, and enjoying each other’s company, go ahead and ask her either to have coffee with you sometime or whether you can see her again. Don’t indicate that you expect anything–she might think you’re exacting payment for the drink you bought her. Be happy and settle for whatever she’s ready to offer; it may be her number, another date, or, if you’re really lucky and you’ve made an impression, perhaps even the inside of her apartment.

Hey everyone,

Justin checking back in — I think I’ve decided upon my next destinations within my “pussy tour”. I’m heading back East, but don’t worry — Atlanta is not on my list. My communication the past few days with Rebecca has trailed off, and I think I’m now putting her behind me as just one conquest within a long list — hopefully I’ve kicked that habit for good. So I’ve decided to make stops in New York, Washington and Miami. I’ve actually only went to DC once, and it was a quick trip just doing the typical tourist shit. I’ve yet to partake in the area’s governmental pussy, and I am looking forward to banging a few chicks who I’ve been supporting all along with my tax dollars anyway. I’ve spent a bunch of time in New York previously — expensive, but I love an occasional visit. Miami I’ve only been to briefly — several times just to depart on a cruise.

South Beach is obviously a prime destination for the sluttiest of chicks — so I figure I can’t go wrong there. I’m taking off in a few days after a finish up some crap I still have to take care of here. Being it is my home, San Francisco doesn’t count as a “conquest location”, but I did have a particularly pleasing random casual encounter the other day. I was hanging out with a few friends at one of our typical haunts, and a chick was there who’ve I’ve never seen before. This is rare seeing the crowd is mostly regulars, and for some reason she caught my eye. She was exceptionally cute, and seemed very bright when I started chatting her up. She was seated at a table during our entire conversation, and the lighting at this place leaves a lot to be desired. So, after working my wiles as I aptly do — I was able to talk her into coming back to my place to hang out. When she got up from the table, I was a bit aghast — she was much larger than my typical target. I think she sensed my dismay, but I quickly covered it up — I didn’t want to seem like a total asshole.

Well I’d had a few drinks and was horny — and the hook-up was already cemented — so I went with the flow. She was not obese by any stretch, but just more more full figured than any girl i’ve recently been with. In actuality, I have no complaints — it was quite a fulfilling night. I won’t make it a habit, but variety is the spice of life…

I’ll touch base from NYC,

Justin

Hey, Justin here again. Arrived yesterday at my first Justin World Pussy Tour stop of Los Angeles, and trust me — this city is much better once you have money. Staying at the Mondrian and hanging with my buddies Larry and Phil who are more than happy to pick up my leftovers — just kidding guys. Last night we were at Sky Bar, and I don’t think I have ever seen a larger selection of hot chicks in one place. I am falling easily into my new role as young wealthy entreprenuer (even though i’m still fucking clueless as to how I actually made my own money), and girls eat it up. We started out chatting up a nice group of MAW’s (Model/Actress/Whatever), and I became fixated on a hot brunette we’ll call Amy (I won’t be using real names of girls on here — that would be uncouth). Amy was among the legions of aspiring Snooki’s, but she had a bit higher of an IQ. After regaling her with stories of my investing prowess (ha ha), she was more than eager to accompany me down to my suite.

Amy had the honor (or dishonor as the case may be) to be my first conquest within the Pussy Tour — and she performed consummate to this coveted designation as the first fuck on my adventure. She was 22, brunette and built for speed. I’m not positive, but I actually think her tits were real — which is quite a novelty around these parts. In reality, I was quite affectionate with her and felt bad when it came time to blow her off — but it had to be done. I made up some shit about one of my friends back at Sky Bar being about to be deployed to Afghanistan, and I dutifully entered her number into my phone (quickly deleted thereafter). It was only midnight — plenty of time left during night #1 for a second target. I didn’t want to go back up to Sky Bar for fear of running back into Amy, so I texted Phil (Larry had already departed with some skank back to his place in Huntington Beach) and we went off in search of new pastures.

After pulling out of the Mondrian in my rented Ferrari 360 (shout out to the guys at RentInStyle.com), we pulled up at the first red light next to two babes who were immediately attracted to our perceived wealth (in reality Phil doesn’t have a proverbial pot to piss in). Having already had a brunette that evening, I selected the blonde of the two (who was Phil to argue), and I graciously got Phil his own room so he didn’t have to take his chick back to his crappy apartment. We’ll call conquest #2 Cindy — and she is now curled up naked under the 400 count Egyptian cotton sheets in my bed as I sit and have my morning coffee writing this post. I figure I’ll be a nice guy and let her blow me one more time before she gets blown off.

Stay tuned for further adventures — next stop is, of course, Vegas!

Justin

Many women of the Sex And The City set view hooking up with a hedge fund manager as the holy grail of sleeping around. Despite the negative press Wall Street masters of the universe have received lately, the benefits that come along with hooking up with New York’s movers and shakers are quite attractive. Fine dining, limitless shopping sprees and first class travel are obviously appealing on their face — however, should you be lucky enough to hook up with one of these guys it might seriously fuck you up. Take, for example, the case of Lisa Maria Falcone (pictured above). Lisa was lucky enough to hook up with hedge fund billionaire Philip Falcone, and since then she has never been the same.

Mrs. Falcone originally came from humble Spanish Harlem roots, but when hooking up with Philip she let her inner crazy emerge. She is currently the target of a lawsuit from the couple’s former butler who claims she repeatedly reached in his pants and grabbed his cock. She didn’t view his being gay as an obstacle asserting to him that he “just needed a good fuck to turn him straight”. The butler was also forced to withstand the indignity of being forced to sleep in the same room as her pet pig. Mrs. Falcone has been seen playing soccer with her kids in Central Park clad in full evening dress (including all of the requisite jewelry), and is now spending her time teaching her pet pig how to play the piano. Ladies, hooking up with a hedgie might not be worth it in the end — save yourself before it is too late.