Let’s talk today about “sexting.” Sexting is really all about escalating. I am not trying to sound like a pickup artist, but when you’re dirty texting back and forth you really want to take the woman on a journey.

Think of sexting like a road heading into the mountains. The road starts out nice and flat, but you want to test things out ahead of time. You want to make sure your tires are sound and that the brakes will work.

So to do that, you will send something very simple like, “I had a thought…” If she takes the bait, she’ll text you back asking you what that thought was.

Then you can write, “Well, last night I had this dream about you…” When you do that, you’re testing a little bit to see if she goes for it. This is good, because if you really had a dream about someone, you would probably share it with that person in bursts (and not all at once).

You want to be able to take it slowly. Really, this is mental masturbation! If you can get her to mentally masturbate about the thought of you having sex with her, she’s going to want to sleep with you when you meet up. So you’re really just testing the road.

It’s also about being 100% in control. For instance, you can say something like, “Yeah, last night I learned about this new position, and it was really hot. So, how’s your trip to D.C.?”

It’s a giveaway-takeaway. You want to constantly give and take away from her.

The more you do that, the hotter she will become. You’re teasing her.

It’s really the same thing with sex. The guy who goes straight for the vagina and pounds away is not going to please the woman. The guy who massages, loves and cherishes the woman is the one who is going to get that woman totally hot.

It’s the same thing for sexting and for sex. Everything is about foreplay. Life is about foreplay.

When you think of places to look for a casual hook up, a list of websites and bars probably come to mind. The last place you would think to check is with the government, but in Singapore, that is exactly what is happening. The government there developed the Social Development Unit (SDU), basically, to promote baby-making!

With the country facing low birth rates from natives and an influx of foreigners, the government has sought to increase the birth rate of the domestic population. The SDU was created in response, and it provides online dating services, hosts social mixers, and even puts together speed dating events.

The public reaction, however, has been a bit mixed. Many young folks look at it as too much paternalistic involvement by the government. Opponents say they do not need the government to find partners. A common joke goes that the agency name really stands for Single, Desperate, and Ugly, based on the selection offered by their services.

It is a fascinating concept either way, if you think about it. The government is actually committing resources and tax dollars to help people hook up! With a little bit of improvement to the system, the people of Singapore could be looking at some true government “benefits”.