For many people, writing an online profile tops their most difficult task list. Considerably harder than bra shopping, cooking the perfect crème brulee or writing your own resume, writing an online profile has a reputation for being exhausting, emotionally draining and harmful to one’s self esteem. But if you’re writing a profile with the specific goal of seducing a potential suitor, the task can also be one of the most rewarding. Here are five ways to make the process easier and to write a seductive online profile successfully.

Open with a Bang

The opening line is undoubtedly the hardest line to write out of your entire online profile. After all, first impressions do matter, especially when you’re trying to seduce someone online (and you’ve got tons of competition). Let your opening line(s) reflect your personality and the specific goals you have from your online profile. Potential partners want to know about you, what you can do for them, and what they can do for you. They don’t want to know that you’re ‘looking for Mr. Right’ or interested in movies and long walks on the beach.

Be Vaguely Blunt

Yes, you read that right. One of the best ways to seduce someone (online or offline) is to let them know what you want without spelling it out. Being seductive is all about leaving something to the imagination and allowing the anticipation take over. If you’re not sure how to master this technique, have a friend proofread your online dating profile. He or she will be able to tell you if your point comes across clearly.

Use Pictures

Almost everyone know that profiles with photos attract about eight times more attention than those without. But you may be surprised to learn that if you’re hoping to create a seductive profile, you shouldn’t let it all hang out. While you may want to use a sexy photo, try to avoid poses or clothing that is just a bit too provocative. Leaving something to the imagination is what will make a potential partner click on your profile instead of passing over it.

When it comes to photos, another thing to consider is the number of images included in your profile. Experts estimate that 5-10 photos is more than sufficient. Having too many may distract the viewer from your end goal, or make him or her feel like they already know you (and don’t need to meet you). Choose pictures that are enticing without being overtly sexual, as photos that are too sexy may cause potential partners to think they’ll be out of your league, and can actually be a turnoff.

Choose the Right User Name

There’s a fine line between choosing a username like SexKitten and one like SchoolTeacher, neither of which will attract the type of person you really want to meet. Take time to think creatively about a good user name that will be charming and witty while saying a little something about yourself. If you need some inspiration, don’t hesitate to look on some of the top dating websites to get examples. Who knows – you may even find one you like that’s available on the website you’re using!

Be Honest

It sounds trite, but honesty is the best policy when it comes to online dating profiles, whether you’re looking for a one-night stand or a long-term relationship. You may be able to lure in more partners by announcing that you have a 24” waist or a voluptuous silhouette, but if you’re not being entirely honest, your partner will know, and will not be happy. The goal of writing a seductive online profile is to seduce the right type of person, not to attract the interest of every potential suitor on the website of your choice. Don’t be afraid to narrow down your options by writing the truth. This will surely be the way to hone in on the right options, rather than the wrong ones.

Quick Summary:

Hookup potential: 2/5    Features: 3/5    Design: 4/5    Content: 4/5

• Clean-looking site with a tight, integrated design and interface.
• Fake profiles galore.
• Chatroom shills.
• Lots of XXX content, but more of a porn site, really?

The Full Story:

This was going to be a review of fling.com, but they decided they were going to have some big problem with our credit card, so we’ve postponed it until we can figure that crap out. Instead, this will be a review of uLust.com.

So I kicked it off by landing here, signing up and logging in. Here’s a screenshot of the members’ area.

Well, first impressions: it’s a clean, white, uncluttered, and attractive site with a lot of Ajax-y Web 2.0 bells and whistles. The upsell advertising (cams and penis pills while I was on the site) isn’t so in-your face and ubiquitous as it is with AFF.

The membership database, however, is considerably smaller than AFF ‘s–clocking in at around 5.5 million, but while I was logged in there seemed to be a proportionately larger number of active members; namely, 57-115k active/5.5 million for uLust.com compared to 132k active/32 million on AFF. My later interaction with the site ended up leaving me with some serious reservations about the accuracy of that figure, though. For which read on.

So I finished filling in my profile details, fired up the search function, and went trawling for tail. Now what you should probably know about mainstream adult dating sites is that a sizable percentage of them create fake profiles, usually of women, to attract and retain the interest of paying male members. The first thing I noticed was that there were a lot of suspicious profiles, even by industry standards. Like “the overwhelming majority” a lot.

Some, like this one, is just too “Penthouse Pet” to be real, while others, like this one, were real-but-c’mon-guys-it’s-a- freaking-hooker. Genuine profiles like this one, this one, and this one were in the decided minority plus, uh, you know. Look at them. “Hoorah?”

It wasn’t too long before the whole site started to give me a serious “porn” vibe. It seemed to be far more about the fake profiles and shilling for camwhores than it was about anything else. Like, for example, “adult dating”. Or “getting laid.” There was also an annoying bug in the picture viewing code, which kept distorting the picture dimensions in the thumbnail view when I was reviewing profiles.

After about half an hour searching profiles I wandered over to check the “Members’ Video Chat”. The girls here (and surprise, they were all girls) all seemed to be professional websluts doing “teaser” shows. They weren’t overly responsive to what was being typed, and one of the rooms was empty when I looked at it. Two others closed while I was viewing them, leading me to suspect the girls had received requests for private shows .

The main Cams link here goes to pages full of thumbnails. You can click on a thumbnail to talk to the associated girl if she’s available AND you join the ulustcams.com site. Joining this complementary site requires validation of your credit card, then presumably (I didn’t investigate much further) the payment of some per-minute charge to naked cam-to-cam with the googly-eyed slut of your choice.

Like I said, a glorified porn site. The “Movies” link takes you to a bunch of porn clips (yeah, I’m on an adult dating site because I only want porn, right?) These clips have some Firefox playability issues, which I couldn’t be bothered figuring out. The user videos are little better, though they suffer from the same issues as the profiles. Namely that a lot of them consist of generic porn content. i.e. “they’re fakes.”

uLust’s chatrooms were all dead when I looked in on them, except for one (the “Lounge”) which had a fake-profile “babe” chatting in it. This prosti-shill regaled the room with a banal chronicle of “her” daily routine (“Yeah, sorry I was just on the phone. Yeah, I’m feeling pretty tired now. Yeah, wonder what I’ll have for dinner tonight.”) The (old, unattractive, desperate, horny) men floating around the room were hanging on her every utterance, entranced. Some of them definitely seemed to be regulars. They had kind of a leering, wolfish demeanor and snippily informed me that if any REAL women turned up (keep dreaming, losers!) the “vetereins” would have first crack at them.

I scanned through the forums and groups. They have a reasonable number of posts, but they’re all moderated (there’s a general theme of heavy-handed moderation, presumably because the owners of the property don’t want people squawking publicly about how much the site, you know, sucks.) You can see that most of them are of the LADIES HERE I AM LET’S FUCK variety. Yeah. I hear that’s how the hardcore playaz really pull.

As you can probably tell by now, I was less than impressed by my uLust.com experience. There’s very little evidence of genuine community here and I’m skeptical about both the userbase size and participation level claims that they’re making. On the bright side, the site looks good, and there’s a ton of porn (movies and galleries) there, if that’s really what you’re after. But don’t expect to get laid, and don’t expect not to feel like you’ve been cheated, if you join expecting anything other than a boatload of porn.

C-. Must try harder.