Sometimes women will do things that you won’t understand. It doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship, depending on what she does and how you handle it. If she seems the hysterical type, however, and flies off the rails at regular intervals then it’s best to say goodbye. Before we get started on the smaller problems, here are some women to flat out avoid:

She considers money an issue

If she never pays for anything herself, and gets grumpy about paying for things, she’s not worth it unless you’re looking for a one-night stand.

She has a lot of emotional baggage

Sadly, a lot of women suffer abuse at some point in their lives and this is not necessarily a sign that you shouldn’t see her. However, if she mentions it constantly and it infiltrates every part of your relationship, you should move on.

She is a psycho

A “psycho” is any woman who is often irrational, emotional, flips out regularly or even hits you. Run!

These are all extremes and most women are perfectly normal and lovely, though guaranteed they will occasionally behave in a way that you don’t understand. This is because they have different hormones and often think on a different level. The success of the relationship will depend on how you handle these confusing times.

Problems and How to Handle Them

Crying

Sometimes a woman will cry out of frustration or sheer emotion. It may have nothing to do with you. The best thing to do is not say anything, unless she’s angry with you. If she’s crying over something you said, some good responses are:
“I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to upset you.”
“I can see this is really important to you.”

If she’s not angry but just sad, take her in your arms and give her a hug. Don’t try and find out what the problem is while she’s still crying, wait until she’s calmed down.

When she is ready to talk, don’t try to reason with her or belittle her problems. She’s feeling a little irrational so the best thing to do is listen. If she is being irrational, most likely she will realize later and apologize.

Again, if she cries often, especially during sex, it’s best to say goodbye.

PMS

A lot of women suffer from Pre-Menstrual Syndrome, and all men in a relationship need to be aware of their girlfriend’s cycles. Common symptoms are getting a bit emotional (hence the crying sometimes) and being snappy. The best thing to do is stay away from her when she’s at her worst, but this shouldn’t be a massive problem as women who suffer from bad PMS usually have medicine for it. If it’s coming between you, or you feel she’s always explaining away bad behavior as PMS, then it’s not something that’s going away.

Manipulation

Sadly, some women learn from the young age that they can manipulate men into doing things they’d ordinarily refuse to do, such as paying more money for a gift than they feel comfortable with, saying goodbye to close friends that she doesn’t like, or generally giving ultimatums. She may use sex as a reward, only bestowing it if the man agrees to what she wants. She may seem difficult to please, and may occasionally “test” you to check your commitment to her.

This is not healthy behavior and she will know this deep down, but some behavior is ingrained and hard to give up. The reason for her manipulation is it’s an attempt to control you through playing mind games. Women are rarely able to control men physically, so this is her attempt to be one step ahead of you.

If your woman is frequently manipulative, here are some ways to deal with it:

Don’t lose your cool and fight with her

If you don’t remain calm, she’s already “won” in her eyes. You look like you can’t handle a bit of conflict; in short, you look weak. Try and agree with her and she’ll soon be pacified.

Let her know how important she is to you

If she feels secure she’s less likely to feel the need to test you on things. Telling her she’s important to you will calm her down. Remember, she’s not a bad person, just scared of losing control.

When she has a problem to discuss

Unlike most men, when a woman has a problem she usually wants to talk about it. Men often make the mistake of trying to solve her problem rationally, they think this is what she’s asking for when she talks about it. Wrong. A woman lets off steam by simply sharing her problem with someone, often it clears up things in her own head.

The man’s job is to simply listen and indicate that he is indeed listening by nodding and saying, “yes”, “uh-huh”, “right”, and all the other nonsensical indicators that he is paying attention.

On the other hand, if you have a problem and want to be alone to think, simply tell her this and she’ll understand. Going off on your own and not returning her calls will cause her to think she’s done something wrong. Simply be honest, tell her it’s not her but you’ve got something on your mind, and she’ll appreciate your straight-forwardness.

Remember, honesty plus listening plus romance equals lots of reward for you!

You’ve seen her, you know you want her, and you’re pretty sure she’s interested in you. Now’s the time to talk to her. As mentioned before, a woman can be seduced anytime and anywhere. You will know when the time is right for you.

What to say

Just go up to her and say hello, and your name. This is the simplest, most genuine, most foolproof first line. Then ask her what her name is and then remember her name. This shows you think she’s special enough to commit her name to memory.

When you talk to her you want to personalize your discussion and not use lines that you have memorized. Before you approach her, look at her to see if there’s something you can use at the beginning of the conversation, such as a book she’s carrying, an interesting drink she’s holding, anything that will get her talking.

Woman love being complimented, it makes them feel appreciated. Look at her, decide on something in particular that attracts you to her and use it during your conversation.

Also think about where you are and use that during your approach. If you’re at a concert, ask her what she thought of the band. If you’re in a park, ask here if she’s seen the Monument and show it to her. Wherever you are, there’s a wealth of material at your fingertips to take the pressure off you.

Things to do (and not to do) when talking to her

Firstly, have a sense of humor. This will help her relax, but just bear these things in mind:

1) Don’t jokingly insult her, especially not her appearance. You may do this with your guy friends, but women are generally more sensitive.
2) Don’t put yourself down. You may think this is funny, and she may think so too and laugh, but you don’t want her laughing at you! This is not seductive.
3) Don’t joke about violence. The last thing you want to do is frighten her. Look in the papers to see what kind of atrocities happen to women and you’ll understand why women are easily frightened off by aggression.
4) Don’t just be a clown. Some clowning is good, but too much and she’ll see you affectionately but not romantically.

Secondly, ask her questions. This does several things. It puts the spotlight on her, giving you a break from the pressure of finding something to say, it tells her that you’re interested in her as a person, and it helps you to get to know her interests so you can raise them again in conversation. That shows her you’ve been listening too. Extra bonus points!

These are some basic facts about how to approach a woman. It’s likely that she will see how interested you are and be willing to chat with you. (However, if she is cold and unfriendly don’t get angry, just move on.) You learn through practice, and as you become more confident and earn her trust, which is absolutely vital, you can ask her out.

How to ask her out

After a while, you both seem to be getting on well and you want to see her again. It’s better not to organize a date on the spot, give yourself time to think over what she’s said and what she might want to do.
So, after a successful session of flirting, you ask her for her phone number and she says yes. If you are terribly nervous, you can give her your business card, but the chances of her calling you back are incredibly low. To her, it looks as if you could be handing out your card to everyone and that you have an inflated sense of self-importance. Either that or you’re passive. So take a risk and get her number. Be confident about it, say that you would like to see her again. Remember the mantra: You Don’t Ask, You Don’t Get! It’s simple but almost too simple for people to remember.

When to call, what to say

When calling (and there is no “right” time to call, just don’t call the same day and don’t leave it a month) try to avoid leaving a message, but you may have to if she’s busy or screens calls. If you do leave a message, keep it short. If she doesn’t return your call, try again, but on the third call say it’s be your last for a while if she doesn’t respond. Don’t be needy or confrontational.

The first thing you need to say when you call is your name, to remind her of who you are and where you met. When suggesting the date, plan where you want to go (and when) before you ask her. This shows you’re decisive, doesn’t put her on the spot to suggest something and gives you the advantage of selecting a place where you feel comfortable.

Don’t call her the day before you want to see her! It seems thoughtless and like you’re assuming she’ll either drop all plans to be with you, or she isn’t popular enough to have any. Give her a few days’ notice.

Before the call you may be feeling a bit nervous, so jot down some notes in case you get stage fright. Remind yourself that she gave you her number so she wants you to call.

Remember also to keep the call short. Your goal is to arrange a date with her, so keep it relaxed, don’t interrupt her and make a plan.