I’m glad that this was posted on craigslist. Otherwise I might have gone through my entire life thinking that re-enacting the knife fight scene from the “Beat It” video by Michael Jackson with another guy while jerking off was “kinda gay”.

Guest post from craigslist, for the ladies. Enjoy–and pay attention!

I think that most guys are easy to please when it comes to sucking their cock. Sure, you might find yourself the occasional connoisseur, but generally if you go for quantity over quality you can’t go wrong. But, if you want to blow his mind when you blow his cock, here’s some tips. I’ve got most of my information from asking other people, both guys and girls, and I’ve included stuff I’ve learned in my experience as a cock-sucking slut!

First of all, the general opinion seems to be that unless there’s a pressing reason (like you’re sucking off total strangers on a crowded train) it’s preferable if you’re naked. Particularly if you’ve got nice tits (and let’s face it, boys are less fussy about the tits they can get in their bedroom than they are about the ones in porn), topless is almost a minimum requirement. There are a couple of advantages to being naked when you’re giving a blowjob. Firstly, it’s easier to clean up — just rub anything that lands on you into your skin. Sure, you’ll never get a nice Monica Lewinski-style souvenir, but at the same time you’ll save money on dry cleaning. Secondly, it means easy access so you or he can play with your bits and pieces — you’ll both love it, more on this later.

Now, obviously getting naked before giving head will decrease the spontaneity a bit. Spontaneity is something a lot of guys like, and I think there are a few reasons. Firstly, the idea that you can’t wait to drink the cum straight out of him will probably drive your man wild. I remember watching in awe as my best friend dropped to her knees at a music festival once, her man loved it so much she only just got her mouth around his dick in time to swallow his load. I think a spontaneous blowjob also has a subtle psychological effect. If you randomly whip out his cock and suck him off, it will seem more likely to him that you’ll do it again some time.

So to put a bit of that spontaneity back in, you could try a couple of things that work for me. Obviously, you could take advantage of already being naked, if you’re changing clothes or having a shower. Another thing I’ve found drives most men wild is to drop to your knees, start sucking on their cock, and then tear your clothes off. Finally, you could do a little bit of planning and be wearing something that will come off quickly and easily as you move toward his big, throbbing member. You could, of course, suck him off fully clothed every once in a while, some guys love it like that, some like to have a view.

A very important facet of your blowjob is what I will, for want of a better word, call presentation. I’ve found that there’s not much turns a man on more than the idea that you can’t resist sucking on his dick. Paradoxically, a bit of teasing is also a big help, particularly if you’re trying to make and impression. The old sucking on a prop trick is clich�d because it works — don’t be scared to use it. If there’s nothing suitable readily available, suck on your finger. This is extremely effective if you do it in public. Just keep your eyes locked on his, so he knows the prop is standing in for his dick, not someone else’s.

In a similar vein, give him a big sloppy kiss and pretend his tongue is his dick. Suck it into your mouth and run your tongue over it. Some guys like this more than others.

Once you get him alone with plenty of time, give him a show. You or he can take your clothes off, but if you want him to do it you might need to get it started to give him the idea — men can be a bit slow sometimes! If you’re a confident girl, give him a bit of a striptease, with or without music, finish up with a few sexy poses, then get out his dick and chow down. If you’re a bit less outgoing, or you’re shy, take your own clothes off, but do it slowly. One thing that used to help me was imagining your hands belong to someone else. Move a slowly as you can, turning occasionally. Caress your own skin like a lover should. A big teasing tip: remove your underwear with your back to him, but turn between bra and panties so he gets a look at your tits. Pinch your nipples a bit for him, I’ve never met a man that didn’t work on. If you’re insecure about your body, do all this with the lights low; guys have a pretty good imagination, so chances are he’ll remember you looking sexier than you think.

So now we’re at the stage where you’re naked and he’s starting to go crazy with lust. You need to get over there and start sucking, and you can just do that directly if you want. This works well in terms of making him feel irresistible. I would recommend saying something like, “Get that big dick out, honey, I want to suck you dry,” as you advance on him. Try to time it so your knees hit the floor as his cock pops out of his pants, that way it’s more like a porn movie, and he’ll love it.

To keep things in your control, you need to keep him mesmerised, so I’d recommend slow and sexy movements. If he’s standing I like to walk over to him, swaying my hips, and grab his belt. Pull him up against you, press your tits into his chest, and kiss him as you undo his pants. Get down on your knees as you push his undies down; kiss down his body if you want, I would recommend looking into his eyes.

If he’s sitting I like to crawl over to him. If he’s on a chair I crawl all the way, but if he’s on a bed I’ll walk to the bed then crawl up to him. As you crawl, arch your back downward like a cat stretching. Try brushing your nipples on the floor. This leaves your ass sticking up in the air, and the crawling motion will make it sway enticingly. When you reach him, stop at his dick, give him a lustful look and start getting into his pants.

This is the point at which you either whip him out and get going, or you turn the teasing up to eleven. I have driven guys wild by starting to blow them through their underwear (this works better with stretchy skin-tight undies than with loose silk boxers). Try giving him the impression that as much as you’re teasing him, the self-denial is twice as bad for you. A girlfriend of mine likes to savour the smell as if it’s a cigar. Do whatever you feel like, the important thing is you’re teasing him to make it better, not to make his life miserable!

How you proceed once you’re face-to-face with his cock depends on what condition it’s in. Young guys will be just about ready to cum, while old guys won’t be hard yet (generally — prepare to be surprised, it’s part of the fun!). One thing I absolutely love is putting a flaccid dick in my mouth and feeling it swell up in there. I’ll also pop the young guys straight in so that if they’re going to lose it we can get the first one out of the way and start again. Otherwise I generally give the cock a bit of a tongue bath.

I’d like to talk a bit about taste. Personally, I think cock tastes good. It doesn’t have to be straight out of the shower, I don’t mind if it’s developed a bit of an aroma, within reason. If you pull it out of his pants and the smell beats you over the head take him off to the shower, give him a rinse, and continue there. Trust me, most guys will do anything for head, so he won’t mind. Just try not to grimace or retch. You might find a man who wants you to lick things off him. Whipped cream and stuff is fine (although wash well to avoid smelling of cheese), no problems. Lots of guys like you to lick your pussy juices off them (assuming you’re not using a condom, which means only in a trusting relationship once you’ve been tested — very important), which is something I have no problem with. I would advise you to taste yourself on your own if you think you might do this — just lick your fingers when you masturbate, and that way you won’t surprise yourself. Some guys want to do the ass-to-mouth thing they’ve seen in porn. Leave this one in the videos, it’s not worth the risk associated with ingesting your own shit. Finally, personally I hate the taste of latex, but I know some of my girlfriends don’t mind it. I always use flavoured condoms for casual sex so he’ll at least taste of chocolatey latex.

So, we’re up to licking his dick all over. Try to savour the experience, it’ll turn him on even more if you’re loving what you’re doing. One important thing about cocks is that you can push them up (against his stomach), but it could hurt him if you push it down too hard (some guys love this, though). Most guys like it if you push their cock up against their stomach and lick the underside of it. You can move down and lick their balls (gently!), and I go a bit lower to lick the perineum. This is where if you are into it, and don’t mind the risk, you can give your man’s ass a bit of a licking.

Usually at this point you’ve got one hand lifting his cock by the tip, and the other’s not really doing much, which leads us to the question of what to do with your hands. If you’re lucky enough to have a big man, your hands will be very useful because they will be the only way to stimulate the base of his dick. Wrap your hand around his shaft and pump the bit you can’t fit into your mouth. You can do the same thing if you want to concentrate on his head with your lips and tongue.

If you’re at a loss, you could always play with yourself. I’ve sucked a lot of guys who loved to look down and see me sucking hard on their cock while I tweaked and pulled both my nipples. If you’re planning to blow this guy again, be sure to show him the wet spot you leave behind because you got so turned on sucking on his big, beautiful, hard cock.

By now you should have a big, hard cock in your mouth (you lucky thing!) and your man’s full attention. As far as I can tell, the consensus seems to be that sloppy is better. Make sure you’re not dehydrated before you start so you can generate spit — you want to leave a shiny layer all over him. He’ll love the idea that you drool at the thought of sucking him off, and I’m told it feels better. This is also an area where fingering yourself gives you an advantage — just use your own juices to lube him up, supplementing his precum and your saliva. You might have seen in porn (or maybe real life, who knows?!) girls spitting at cocks. This is something I personally find a bit weird, but if a guy asked for it I’d do it. What I find sexier is nestling him between my boobs and sort of dribbling on him. Anything that misses I just wipe from my tits onto his cock.

Speaking of this kind of thing, I’ve been with guys who’ve asked for a titfuck, and I’m usually happy to oblige. I think with this kind of thing the turn-on is more visual than anything else, so be sure to look up at him with your sexy eyes and make a real show of sliding your boobs over his hard-on. Rather than waste saliva on this (it’s hard to make enough) I recommend you get some lube. If it doesn’t make you feel silly, a bit of dirty talking wouldn’t go astray. One thing I do like is rubbing the cock over my nipples. In fact I love to tell a man how wonderful his cock is as I rub it over my skin — face, tits, nipples, through my hair. I think it’s because it feels a bit naughty.

On the subject of talking, I have this to say: if you can talk to the guy, it’s not a blowjob. Your mouth should be full most of the time. Don’t get me wrong, handjobs are great, especially at the end. I love to watch a dick twitch and pump a big load of cum at me, watch it fly towards me, and feel it splatter on my skin. If you’re giving head, however, there needs to be lots of contact between your mouth and his dick. If you want to talk to him, do it between deep sucks of his cock. For example, ask him how it feels, then bury him in your mouth while he groans his ecstatic response, then pop him out again and tell him you love it too. Also, give him the impression talking is secondary to sucking by not answering him immediately. If he asks you a yes/no question, don’t even take him out of your mouth, just answer with an “Uh-huh” with your mouth full.

In terms of incoherent noises, I would advise you not to fake sexual pleasure — most guys won’t buy it if you fake an orgasm while blowing them. If you do want to make some sort of moan, think more of eating a delicious chocolate dessert rather than being skilfully fingered. Of course, if you’re going to cum for real, just let it out, and if you are playing with yourself (or he’s playing with you), respond to that too. The noises he really wants to hear are the ones that show how hard you’re working — the sucking, slurping, popping noise of a girl trying as hard as she can to drink her man’s cum!

If you talk to him, don’t be too clever — remember most of his blood’s not in his brain anymore! When I first see his cock I like to complement it — tell him it’s big, hot, hard, beautiful, whatever’s not too blatant a lie. If you really can’t complement its appearance, give it a good licking or sucking and then tell him it’s delicious. In fact, tell him that regardless. During the course of the blowjob you can reinforce the message by repeating it. You could also tell him how much you love what you’re doing, or how turned on you are (don’t lie about this — he might check). If this is just stage one of the lovemaking, tell him what you look forward to doing next. If he’s a stranger you’ve picked up, you could tell him you never do this but you find him irresistible. At the end, it’s usually a good idea to give the guy permission and encouragement. It’s nice to let him know you want to swallow, or take it on your face, or whatever. If there’s something you don’t want, tell him you do want something else, so instead of, “Don’t you dare cum in my mouth, you perve,” go for, “I want it all over my tits, you big stud.” If you don’t want the cum on you, tell him you want to watch it shoot, then point his dick past you.

As far as technique goes, I think it comes pretty naturally. You’re mimicking intercourse using your mouth, essentially. The difference is teeth, tongue, and the “fact” that good girls don’t do it. Lots of guys are freaked out by teeth in blowjobs, some guys like it. You could ask, but I prefer to let him ask me for it. Generally, just use your teeth either to scrape gently over the shaft, or to kind of grip the head at the back and pull, once again, gently! The tongue is a whole other matter. You need to use it. I don’t have a tongue piercing because I like my teeth and don’t want them chipped or ground down, but apparently this really does make a difference. Your tongue should slither around him, wrapping itself around the head, sliding along the shaft. Your technique will vary depending on the length of your tongue. A favourite among guys seems to be sticking your tongue out to lick his balls while his dick is buried in your mouth, but unless he’s miniscule you’ll need to control your gag reflex.

Now, guys love going down your throat, which is something I blame on porn. I personally have a gag reflex, so I can’t do the relentless throat-fucking thing you see in movies, and I don’t think there’s anything sexy about puking. If you are with someone who wants to make you throw up, make sure you get most of it on him. This deep-throat thing is ok as long as you’re in control, though. Once again, probably because it feels naughty, it can be a real turn-on to go as far down a cock as you can. I think guys actually prefer it if you gag a little bit, pop up for air, then dive straight back onto them, rather than either the professional “I can do this all night” thing or if you go too hard and spend minutes coughing. If a guy grabs your head and you’re not one of those girls who likes that, or if you don’t trust this particular guy, take his hands and move them down to your nipples. Then suck him as deep and as hard as you can to show there’s no hard feelings.

If you’re still at a loss as far as technique goes, get some porn and try anything you see that you like. What’s even more fun is to get some porn, then watch it with your man and give him what he sees on screen (maybe a good idea to check the movie on your own first to avoid nasty surprises!). Guys love it if you can give them exactly the same rhythm and action as the slut on screen.

After doing your thing for a while, he’ll be getting ready to unload for you. If you’re a bit inexperienced and can’t tell, he’ll start to do something different — lots of guys start to thrust at you, which means they want you to use their rhythm rather than yours so go with that; some guys go still, so basically don’t let that freak you out; some guys start talking more, or get less coherent and more grunty. If he starts saying, “I’m gonna cum, I’m gonna cum,” over and over, he’s probably a little way off and needs some help, which you can provide by popping him out of your mouth and begging for a big load!

You’ll learn to read the signs pretty easily — when he cums, his pelvic muscles all squeeze up to shoot the semen out of him and this means his balls will lift up and his shaft will twitch. Then you’ll find yourself with a jet of spunk to deal with, and you should think about how you’re going to do that well before it happens.

Personally, I think cum tastes fantastic — I’d buy it in bottles if I could — so obviously I have no problem swallowing it. If you do, I suggest two things. First of all, catch it on your skin, then rub it in — it’s sexy without you needing to taste it. Secondly, try to acquire a taste for it, because there are some fun places you can blow a man where you don’t want to leave a mess (your car, for example).

Some guys want to cum on you (usually face or tits after a blowjob), which might be their way of marking you or something. Whatever it is, there’s not much reason not to let them if you’re in private. If you’re in public (or about to be), maybe consider just how bad the consequences could be, although chances are people won’t really notice much. One of the sexiest things I’ve ever done was to blow a random guy first thing in the morning at university, have him wipe his dick in my hair, and then walk around all day being able to smell the faint aroma of cock in my hair. None of my girlfriends commented, so I assume they didn’t notice, but I was so turned on I had to go and buy some more panties at lunchtime.

To give a man the best of both worlds, do one of these, then the other. Either have him cum on you, then scoop it up and eat it, or collect his cum in your mouth and dribble it all over yourself. I have a friend who likes to “accidentally on purpose” get a few dribbles on her clothes to make herself look and feel more slutty.

Once you finish, don’t forget to thank him — he’ll thank you, but won’t expect thanks back. If he’s a regular of yours tell him you have so much fun you need to do it more often. If he’s more of a one-off thing tell him you’d love to do it again.

I hope all this helps. Please remember to be safe, and that nobody has the right to force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Hi CasualSexers,

I’m posting this before I head out to — of all places — Lincoln, Nebraska. I have never been to Nebraska before, but when I was pondering a good stop in between Phoenix and Chicago and old high school friend came to mind who is in grad school at the University of Nebraska. He assured me that Cornhusker chicks are as hot as they come, and that the action after a home game on Saturdays is intense. Going to see a big college football game (something I have yet to do) sounded like fun — as did Midwestern corn-fed girls. So I’ve booked a room at the Lincoln Marriott (a far cry from my suites at the Mondrian and Phoenician, but i’ll survive) and am heading out to the flatlands of the Midwest.

Although I’m an old 28, I’m still confident I can run with the college crowd — certainly of the female persuasion at least. Nebraska seems like a perfect place to indulge my true preference — nice, innocent girls who will suck my dick on our first encounter. I have yet to strike out on any of my stops, hopefully after Lincoln my record will be 4-0 after already conquering L.A., Vegas and Phoenix. Well, everyone wish me look. As always, I’ll post the lascivious details once they emerge.

Go Cornhuskers!

Justin

Hey guys, Janak here.

I wanted to give Justin a short break and write a post myself. This one’s some advice for men, but there’s stuff here that’s going to be useful and relevant for women as well, so don’t stop reading immediately, ladies.

I’ve been thinking that one thing I hear from a surprising number of guys is that they just don’t feel they’re “cut out” for the casual sex lifestyle. Despite the unlimited hedonistic pleasure on offer, many men feel they’re too “sensitive” to cope with it . They find it hard to avoid getting emotionally involved with women they’re fucking– basically, they don’t know how to protect themselves psychologically from falling into the trap of unwanted emotional intimacy.

The truth is that men are capable of getting just as emotionally worked-up as women are, and unfortunately they’re usually not as good as women are at processing their emotions efficiently and productively. They just haven’t had enough practice; they aren’t taught the emotional coping strategies girls learn at a very young age until adulthood, if ever.

An inability to distance yourself emotionally from the women you’re fucking can lead to a variety of undesirable and destructive consequences, and I’m not just talking marriage and children. If you don’t protect yourself and end up attached to the wrong woman, you expose yourself to a potential world of suffering, including jealousy, unrequited love, codependency, and overt, painful neediness .

So how do you do it? How do you escape the grasping clutch of the sometime-bootycall who wants More?

I recommend beginning with the following 5 daily affirmations:

1. I will not even consider emotionally connecting with any woman who has not demonstrated consistently good behavior.
2. For the idea of a romantic relationship to even be entertained a woman must love me the way I want to be loved. If she can’t or won’t do this, and isn’t happy with a purely physical relationship, then she must be weeded out of my life.
3. I will say “no” to rude behavior. Followed by “goodbye”.
4. For so long as I am not interested in an exclusive relationship, I will try to never be seeing only one girl at a time.
5. I won’t share my feelings or innermost thoughts with any woman whom I don’t intend to be exclusive with.

What do you guys think? Anything we should add or take away? Interested in your thoughts.

-Janak

There is just something intrinsically sexy about hotel rooms, and more specifically about hotel robes. My last post on here described my meeting Rebecca at Axis Radius in Scottsdale. I could tell from the start that she really didn’t belong within that meat market environment, and it turns out she was attending some HR conference in Scottsdale with her company and was dragged there by coworkers after a company dinner. She is 26 and from Atlanta (a city now definitely on my list, she may end up being a double dipper), and is really a nice girl. You might begin to see that as a theme with me — having casual sex with sluts is almost boring and redundant to me — but sluts and hookers do occasionally have their place. However, the real conquest and excitement — for me at least — are random and brief sexual encounters with nice and classy girls who otherwise wouldn’t engage in such activities.

Rebecca definitely falls into this category which made her all the more alluring. I sense partly that she just wanted to get out of the club, but my ego will insist that she also really desired to be with me. So I got her back to my suite at the Phoenician, and after a few drinks I could tell she was mine. She was a bit shocked, but complied when I led her to the amazing jacuzzi tub in the master bath, and we undressed and languished in it for quite a while. After rinsing off in the shower, we put on the plush hotel robes — and that is the image of her that sticks in my mind. Her robe, slightly open showing her milky skin and brief glimpses of the soft tufts of bright red pubic hair. We then went out on the balcony and in the cool Phoenix air she bent over holding the railing as I pulled up her robe and did her from behind while admiring the desert landscape under a full moon. I must say, out of the almost 10 conquests since my “tour” began, she is in a strong first place. Maybe it was the robe, but I think it was much more. I better get ahold of myself lest my misogynistic pussy tour turn into some kind of sensitive love-fest. Nah, that’s not gonna happen.

Justin

God, I love Scottsdale — more specifically, I love the Phoenician. If anyone from the Phoenician staff should run across these posts, I apologize for discussing your fine property within such a prurient context — and I also apologize to subsequent guests in my suite for a few stains. However, they’ll probably never see them, so ignorance is bliss. So I got into Phoenix this morning and met up with my buddy and we played 18 here at the Phoenician. Shot a 94, and was quite proud of myself considering how difficult this course was — but enough about golf. After a great steak at Mastro’s, we headed over to the VIP room at Axis Radius. Let me tell you, that place rocks. And, as with most places in America, if you’re a decent looking guy with a few bucks, then scoring there is akin to shooting proverbial fish in the barrel.

So just a few minutes after sitting down at our table at Axis Radius, I make eye contact with a really cute blond. I was about to approach her, but a bright color within my peripheral vision caught my attention. It was stunning red hair sitting on top of a beautiful girl with milky Victorian skin. Unlike the majority of the other chicks in the place, she wasn’t dressed slutty whatsoever. Actually, very restrained, and for some reason she didn’t look like she belonged here. Ordinarily, I don’t go for redheads — but something about her really did it for me. It was a tall task to stand out among all the other hot chicks at this club — and she really wasn’t trying which added to my attraction. Well, to make a long story short, I stayed at Axis Radius for all of 45 minutes — and am now back here at my suite at the Phoenician with sweet redhead Rebecca. I must go now and join her out on the balcony, but I promise to post all the lascivious details soon.

Justin

Hi Casual Encounters Fans,

Justin here. So I’ve taken care of some personal and money shit (seems once you have money then problems inevitably come along with it) and am ready to depart San Fran and get back on my sex trail. L.A. and Vegas are behind me, and they served as excellent locales to kick off my “tour”. So I’ve been pondering my next stops, and I’m going to meet up with a buddy in Phoenix to play a bit of golf (and chase a bit of pussy). After that I’m not sure. I want to start heading towards Chicago for an Italian beef sandwich (I love those things) and some fine midwest-raised chicks (I love those too). However, I probably should make a stop or two in between, but I must admit that the majority of the US Midwest is a mystery to me. I’ve been to Chicago several times and love it there, but I have little travel experience outside of catching connecting flights in the rest of the Midwest.

I’ve heard Colorado Springs is really cool and was thinking about stopping there. I’ve also been told that any large Midwestern university is prime pickings on game Saturdays. So, i’m gonna research a bit further. First stop is definitely Scottsdale, and I’m going to stay at the Phoenician (yes, money is nice — before it would have been Motel 6). Hopefully my drives will be long and i’ll find some nice AZ girls who will help me add strokes to a game of a different sort. Any nice girls in the Phoenix area over the next few days who desire to have casual sex with me and never hear from me again — please let me know. OK, maybe you can have two nights if you’re truly special. And I promise i’ll give you a fake name if I write about you on here after our encounter.

I’ll update everyone from Scottsdale,

Justin

Hi everybody,

It’s Justin checking back in. I had to take a break from my “pussy tour” to take care of some business back at home, but I’m not ready to hit the road again. As I’d described previously here at Casual Encounters, I had quite a time in Los Angeles and Las Vegas. The best part about the Vegas stop was that I won just over five grand in addition to bagging a high-priced hooker, a local UNLV party girl, a perky MILF-y type from Ohio who was attending her friend’s bachelorette party (before I snagged her out of the Wynn Encore lobby) and my Vegas finale was with a British sales type executive chick attending some convention there. She was quite classy which made defiling her even more gratifying. Somehow, I find undressing a women in a pristine business suit to be more alluring than peeling off skimpy and slutty clothes off a chick dressed like a stripper. But, that’s just me.

So I want to comment on something that happened since I last posted about my adventures on here. I think it is complete and absolute bullshit that Craigslist was extorted — yes, extorted — out of continuing their Adult Services section. Media finds a few incidences of abuse, makes huge stink and the politicians glom on to curry favor with their prude constituents. Are you going to close down phone service because some people abuse the phone? Some people are just so uncomfortable about sex that anything about it should be restricted or banned. Personally, I would have loved it if Craigslist had the balls to fight, but I guess they had no choice and did what they had to do in order to protect their brand. It still is censorship and it sucks.

Justin

The Spitting Game is a documentary seeking to expose the underside of today’s college hook-up culture. Amusing to students and shocking to parents — this movie delves into the motivations, rationale and desires which drives the current acceptance among those under 30 of the casual sex lifestyle. The film explores the risks and realities within the college hook up scene, and it contains interesting perspectives from some of America’s brightest — as well as most promiscuous — college students. Some memorable quotes include a college guy’s definition of a fun night out — “penis in vagina”, as well as a co-ed’s epiphany that anal sex is actually sex.

Spitting Game explores the relationship between alcohol and hooking up and illustrates, via interviews, how tightly these two elements are often intertwined. Alcohol provides males with the proverbial “liquid courage” while it simultaneously helps girls dispatch previously restraining inhibitions. Spitting Game was produced by award winning director Denice Ann Evans and it includes segments touching upon health education, gender issues, peer pressure and substance abuse. Two versions of this film now exist — one for students and another shorter 35 minute version released for educational purposes. Parents of college students who have the stomach to see what is really going on these days on campus are well served to watch this insightful documentary.

High in the mountains of Vietnam, near the Chinese border, villagers descend upon the tiny town of Khau Vai once a year to get it on. The “love market” that ensues connects old lovers and new flames, and it does not matter if the participants are taken or single. This just goes to show that you can get away with anything as long as there is mythology behind it.

According to legend, a beautiful girl from the Giay ethnic group fell head over heels in love with a guy from the rival Nung ethnic group. In true Romeo and Juliet fashion, war ensued between the tribes and the lovers agreed to separate in order to end the war. Before they did, however, they made a secret pact to get together every year in the village of Khau Vai on the 27th day of the third lunar month to rekindle their love.

Today, locals from surrounding villages come to Khau Vai to celebrate this tradition by hooking up. Married men and women meet old lovers that they did not end up with. It is an understood part of culture and there are no ramifications for the current marriage. New romances are also formed, and the younger generation is continuing the tradition. Cell phones, text messages, and digital cameras have made connecting at the event a lot easier. In some ways it sound pretty romantic, but in other ways it sounds like one big orgy! Good times either way.

Have you ever been with a selfish sex partner or been told you’re selfish in bed? It turns out that might be a compliment. A new study that focused on the sex habits of selfish lovers found that those who focus on getting what they want in bed have more fulfilling sex lives for both themselves and their partners.

University researchers in Vancouver studied the sex lives of 60 couples, half of whom were over 30 years of age and half under. Whenever there was a large drop in the satisfaction a person felt for themselves, there was a corresponding drop in the satisfaction their partners got.

The study’s conductors were caught by surprise, but discovered that those who were self-centered in bed were much more engaged and enthusiastic about sex, which translated to pleasurable benefits for the partners.

The other side of the coin is that couples who were more motivated by a desire to please their partners were more prone to have their sex lives turn into something of a routine or a chore. Another interesting result was that younger couples tended to have sex more selfishly, while older couples reported a desire to show affection to the partner as a sexual motivator. Guess who had the hotter sex life?

While this news might give some of you selfish types license to “get yours” guilt-free, the truth is that you are less capable of being good in bed if you are not satisfied and engaged. It is not a reason to poo-poo your partner’s needs, but remember the importance of maintaining your energy and motivation.

Though you would not normally think of sex and museums together, it can be pretty fun to nerd out on everyone’s favorite activity. It does not make a bad date spot either. You might get inspired to try some new things, and some extreme exhibits can challenge you to push your sexual boundaries. The last couple of decades have seen these museums popping up all over, so we decided to run through some of the best.

North America

Museum of Sex, New York.
Smack in the middle of Fifth Avenue, this place features a rotation of exhibits and some rare, vintage videos.
Hollywood Erotic Museum.
Though it is currently closed, you know this had to have some good stuff being located in the porn capital of the world.

Erotic Heritage Museum, Las Vegas.
Sin City is the perfect place to get in the mood before you hit the town or visit brothels.

Europe

Venus Temple, Amsterdam.
The oldest active sex museum, this one is located at ground zero right in Amsterdam’s famous Red Light District.

Russian Sex Museum, Saint Petersburg.
Legend has it that they have the preserved penis of Rasputin.

Sex Machines Museum, Prague.
Featuring over 200 gadgets and machines designed for sex, you get a good look at how far we go for sexual pleasure.

Asia

China Sex Museum, Shanghai.
Having been open for over 10 years, this museum holds more than 3000 sexual artifacts.

Love Land Park, South Korea.
A theme park dedicated to sex. Enough said.

Hihokan Museums, Japan.
Dotted all over the country, these “Houses of Hidden Treasures” offer a sexual foray in vacation spots such as resorts and hot springs.

A Japanese porn star learned about her country’s atrocities against China in grad school and feels really bad about it. To make a mends, she wants to rock the world of Chinese students in Japan. If all guilt looked like this, the world would be a better place.

Adult film star Anri Suzuki has a doctorate in history from a prestigious university in Japan. Unlike most other history students there, she focused on the Japanese invasion of China and wrote a detailed paper on the subject. She told the Korea Times, “I want to cure the wounds of the Chinese with my body, and I am practicing this by having sex with Chinese students in Japan.”

Attention Chinese college students: fill out your study abroad papers NOW. You would expect such interest to skyrocket as pupils “get in line”. You could ask whether this would really do anything to repay historical injustices, but the more important question is: have you seen that rack? Anytime you can answer a complicated historical question with some whoopee, it is the right answer as far as we are concerned.

It seems to be a win-win so far. Suzuki said, “I think it is psychological compensation to them. Actually, Chinese students treat me more friendly and comfortably than Japanese.” Something surely was lost in translation, but you can imagine what would be involved with treating her “more friendly and comfortably.” Oh, to be young and Chinese.