Just read an article by A. Pawlowski that discussed whether or not monogamy was a realistic aspiration in the modern world. He/she makes a number of great points, which I’ll summarize here.
- Monogamy is within the realm of human potential, but it’s not easy. Serial monogamy may be more realistic and better-suited to the human animal.
- Polyamory may also be better than true monogamy, so long as people can get over the jealousy that such relationships often fall prey to.
- Strong aversion to “infidelity” is really a culturally learned behavior. Americans find it much harder to stomach in general and nearly any other culture.
- Powerful and/or famous or famous people are often adrenaline junkies who find it difficult to stop chasing the thrill of new sexual experiences. For obvious reasons they also have more opportunities than most people.
- There are still a lot of reasons why sexual monogamy is in people’s interests. Nature has provided powerful incentives to stay faithful, and many of them are still valid.
If you’re curious, have a read of the article itself, it’s really worthwhile. Then come back and let me know what you think. Is monogamy really over? Is polyamory or serial monogamy a better fit for the modern world?