This fascinating, in-depth interview with leading sex expert David Shade of Masterful-Lover.com kicks off a new series of interviews on Casual Encounters Blog.

Take it away, Mr Shade!

I see from your biographical information that you were divorced circa 1992. Do you think that had you known everything you know now that you would have salvaged that relationship? Perhaps never embarked on it in the first place? What are your feelings about it now?

First of all, thank you Janak for this opportunity. I am honored.

Looking back, I would not have wanted to salvage it, in fact I would never have embarked on it in the first place. My feelings now are that I am glad to be where I am. Believe me, I am enjoying myself a lot more now. And because of what I’ve been through over the past 17 years, starting with crushing defeat and evolving into victory beyond my wildest dreams, I am equipped to help other men to avoid the problems and go straight to success.

As research for this interview I read the “lost chapter” of Neil Strauss’s “The Game”. I found it a fascinating read: it’s quite the picture he paints of you. What’s your relationship with him like these days? And are you still only interested in bisexual women!

It was a fascinating night when we met. He is a Jedi Master at rapport. Nobody compares. By the way, contrary to what he wrote, I have never worn a pocket protector. Ha ha.

He and I have met a couple of times since then. We still occasionally communicate indirectly on business matters and he has interviewed me for his interview series.

As for bisexual women, all women are bisexual, some are just quicker to act on it than others. But since I’ve been there and done that, it is not among my top priority selection criteria.

What are your top priority selection criteria?

High self-esteem, intelligence, and an interest in continual learning. The continual learning is important because I am a hungry sponge for new knowledge and insight, and could only be happy with someone who is also. And it really plays into her ability and willingness to be with a man who is a hard working entrepreneur. Intelligence is important because the smarter they are the better my stuff works. High self-esteem is critical because she has to have the sense of deservedness enough to genuinely believe that she deserves happiness and incredible pleasure. Interestingly, it’s the easiest criteria to test for.

How do you do that?

Here’s a quick and easy tip. Shake her hand and notice how she shakes. If she gives you a limp handshake, she is low self-esteem. This is very dependable. If she gives you a good firm handshake, there is a possibility that she is high self-esteem. To know better, there is one truism about high self-esteem women; they were raised with a close loving relationship with their father, so say to her, “That is a good firm handshake. Did your father teach you that?” If she speaks highly about her father, there is a very good chance she is high self-esteem.

As for online dating, look at the way she composes her online profile and emails. If she uses a lower case i to refer to herself, she is low self-esteem. This is also very dependable.

You teach men to be Masterful Lovers. In that end, you teach them how to use hypnosis and NLP. Do you feel that hypnosis and NLP have ethical roles to play in giving women orgasms? If so, do you believe there are boundaries to their applicability, and if so, what do you believe those boundaries are/should be? If you don’t believe there ought to be boundaries, why not?

As for ethics and boundaries, it all goes back to intent and consent. Your intent is to enhance your woman’s enjoyment of being a woman, and everything is done in the context of consent. It’s very simple; if you don’t want to hurt someone, don’t do anything hurtful.

The first thing men learn when they learn NLP is to recognize all the mistakes they were not aware of that they have been making, such as creating bad associations. Then they learn how to create the right associations to enhance their woman’s experience with them. It’s the kind of stuff that women wish men would do.

Hypnosis is actually the advanced course. It is certainly not necessary to give women wild screaming orgasms, but it is needed for the really far out stuff. Interestingly, women are my biggest supporters. Whenever I put out an email where one of my clients reports success using hypnosis in giving his woman an hour long instant orgasm on command, I get a bunch of women emailing me asking where they can find such a man.

What is necessary to give women wild screaming orgasms?

To understand that for women, sex is entirely mental. Appeal to the mental aspects of female sexuality and everything else follows. It has nothing to do with experience, it has everything to do with having the correct knowledge and beliefs.

Does size matter?

It matters if you think it matters. Interestingly, the bigger the guy is, the more he thinks he needs to be bigger. But the truth of the matter is that size has no correlation to women having vaginal orgasms in intercourse. This is verified by emails I regularly get from women. Some women ask me why their well endowed man is not giving her vaginal orgasms in intercourse but her average sized ex was always giving them to her. Some women used to have a well endowed ex who never gave her vaginal orgasms but now her modestly endowed man is regularly giving them to her. And lots of married women ask me what they can do because their big husband never gives her orgasms.

It is the men who buy male enhancement products who are not giving women orgasms. They have all the wrong mindset.

It is interesting to note that the only women who say that size matters are the women who have never had a vaginal orgasm.

There has never been a case where a woman has vaginal orgasms only with a large man but never has vaginal orgasms with a modestly sized man. Never. And it all makes sense when you understand that sexuality for women is entirely mental and that with just your middle finger you can give a woman her very first vaginal orgasm.

How do you do that?

I fell upon this in 1993. I was with a young woman who had never had an orgasm. I tried all the usual stuff like her clitoris, her G-spot, intercourse, but nothing was working. So I simply looked for something that would work for her. With my middle finger I pressed against the front of her vagina as deep in her vagina as I could reach. She immediately responded powerfully, so I continued this, and she had her very first orgasm, a vaginal orgasm at that. Then she was able to have an orgasm in any manner.

I called it the deep spot. Thousands of my clients have had great success with it, and some of them reported that they had also fallen upon it themselves before they read my stuff. In 1998 it was independently discovered by the sex therapy community and referred to as the anterior fornix of the vagina.

Some people believe that some women cannot have vaginal orgasms.

The majority of women have never had a vaginal orgasm. Many of them believe that they are not “one of the lucky ones” who can have vaginal orgasms, as if they were dealt a bad hand. Some sexologists believe that some women are not born with as much “clitoral erectile tissue” within the front wall of the vagina and that women should not set expectations for themselves which would lead to disappointment. Actually, that sets women up for a self-limiting belief.

The reality of the matter is that there is no such thing as some women being preordained to have vaginal orgasms and some women being preordained to not have vaginal orgasms. All women are born with a vagina and a brain. Every woman is perfectly equipped to have vaginal orgasms.

The reasons why some women are not having vaginal orgasms have nothing to do with being dealt any particular hand. They are other reasons, such as chemical, emotional, or mental. Among the chemical issues are prescription drugs, the most popular being anti-depressants. Among the emotional issues include sexual abuse trauma, low self-esteem causing insufficient sense of deservedness for pleasure, abandonment issues, trust issues, inability to lose control to the pleasure in her body, etc. As for mental issues, the most popular by far is the self-consciousness caused when they feel they are going to pee, which causes them to back down and thus miss out.

And a lot of it has to do with clitoral dependency due to years of diligent practice. She has always used her clitoris to have an orgasm and never made any attempt on her own to experiment with vaginal stimulation. And in many cases she is simply with a man who is a lousy lover.

With regard to being a good lover, do you believe some people have limitations which simply cannot be overcome? If so, what are they? If not, how would you justify that belief?

Some men don’t have what it takes, and never will. In some cases it’s because they don’t care. In others, they are selfish. Neither of those can be overcome. In some cases they are just plain ignorant. That might be able to be overcome with education, but they have to want it. But the biggest problem is a warped concept of sexuality. That goes back to how they were raised. Only intense professional counseling can help in those cases.

But for most men, they simply want to learn the correct knowledge and beliefs that it takes to be a Masterful Lover. They are the ones who soak up the knowledge and take on the beliefs and have incredible success. I certainly wish I had access to this stuff a long time ago.

What do you think is the most important single piece of advice you could give to someone who is having trouble with being a good lover?

Understand and accept the fact that women are highly sexual creatures, much more so than men. Especially the smart high self-esteem ones. They actually want their man to be comfortable with their sexuality. You will quickly realize this yourself when you start implementing the material. You will have to be prepared for what appears, because women can really surprise you with how wild they can get.

What is keeping you busy right now? Any upcoming or current projects you’d like to let our readers know about?

Running my company keeps me busy full time. My latest project is a program that I worked on for 17 years called “Select Women Wisely”. It was recently released and I am very happy that it has been so well received. Men truly are interested in finding the good ones.

True enough. Thanks again David for being so incredibly generous with your time and energy: I’m sure our readers appreciate it. You can see David Shade’s video about the deep spot at youtube and check out David’s website at Masterful-Lover.com.

Plenty more great interviews coming soon–stay tuned!

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2. A poem. About fisting.
3. A charming song about sticking it in the wrong hole. Guest-starring Scott Baio.
4. Sex androids. They breathe. And have a pulse. (more and more.)
5. Intersex author’s life as a ‘Mighty Hermaphrodite’.
6. Worst cybersex line ever.
7. Vintage sexism: 1943 guide to hiring women.
8. Chess champion Kasparov attacked by flying penis.
9. Walmart ruins two parents’ lives by calling family photos “child pornography”.
10. Nudist hikers get their own trail in Germany.

While most online dating sites are legitimate, there are plenty of scammers out there looking to take advantage of the members of such sites. Even on reputable paid dating sites, scammers may find it worthwhile to pay for memberships in order to use them to scam other paid members out of money. In this article we’re going to look at the different scams that exist and give you some tips on recognizing them and avoiding them, as well as giving you advice about how to spot fake user profiles, hopefully enabling you to avoid scammers before they even have a chance to interact with you.

One disclaimer before going further: I don’t mean to suggest that profiles or people you contact exhibiting (or even all) of the features and behaviors I am going to describe are necessarily scams—some may very well not be. The sad fact is though, most will be. If it looks too good to be true, guys, it usually is.

Ways to spot a fake user profile

There are a number of features that many fake profiles will have in common. We’ll list some of them here. If a profile you’re looking at ticks any of these boxes, it should be a warning bell—proceed with caution (if at all!)

Suggestive usernames, particularly on female profiles

Even on explicitly “adult” dating sites, genuine female members will very rarely choose sexually-suggestive usernames. Scammers (and hookers) often do use such names, as they know the names will attract attention. Genuine women won’t, because they don’t want the deluge of lewd and sleazy attention that such names provoke.

Glossy, glamorous, “model-looking” photos

Genuine women will occasionally get glamor shots done for their dating profiles, but this should be thought of as the exception rather than the rule. Genuine photos tend to be in natural settings (not studios, or obviously “lit” environments) and tend to be taken by regular consumer cameras, not by professional ones.

Only a single photo

Because scammers are only usually creating multiple fake profiles, a person having only a single photo can be grounds for suspicion, especially if the photo looks like  it might be of a model.

“Unnatural” language and answers on a profile

The language in fake profiles will often seem unnatural and forced. For female profiles, language that is flirty, suggestive and implies an eagerness to quickly embark upon a physical relationship (without preconditions, specifics, or partner criteria) should be seen as highly suspicious. Likewise a man’s profile that mentions wealth.

Poor English in profile (on an English-speaking site)

Unfortunately it is common to see women from poorer countries trying to attract men from wealthier ones in order to gain access to the wealthier country for reasons of economic opportunity. Poorly-written English full of semantic, spelling, and grammatical errors can be the clue that will help you spot these profiles early.

Profiles that claim to be local, but aren’t

If you find a profile that claims that the indicated individual lives near you, yet once you start communicating with you they reveal they live overseas, walk away. Don’t listen to any excuses they may offer: it’s almost certainly a scam.

Incomplete profiles or profiles that try to be too “generically attractive”

Such profiles “widen the net” the scammer is casting  for his prospective victims.

Profiles that are “too good to be true”

You need to ask yourself what the odds are of finding someone on an online dating site who likes exactly all the things you like and, additionally, is super-attractive, super-attracted to you, and super charming.

The profile asks you to visit a webpage

If a profile suggests that you visit a web page, that may be a clue that it’s fake. Many such profiles will link directly to signup forms for adult or adult dating websites, or perhaps to a small fake “personal” site that tries to convince you to join a paid site. Also be wary of profiles where the user tries to get you to go straight to Yahoo messenger or another IM client; usually these profiles are directing you to a bot or to linkspam.

An example of a fake profile

Now just for fun, let’s take a look at a known fake profile, and look at how the tips I’ve given above should help us to figure out that it’s probably fake.

Here’s the profile. It was recently submitted to localsex.com, a free adult dating site, and was quickly reported and deleted by a sharp-eyed member. Take a look at it, and think about why it doesn’t ring true (you can click on it to see the full-sized version.)

How about that username? It’s sort of borderline. “msalisonangel” isn’t quite “readyforsexnow”, but it’s still a little cutesier than genuine women tend to go for. The real giveaways are:

1) The photos. She’s extremely attractive, which is always a red flag. More importantly though, the photos are clearly professionally-taken, and in the second photo (thumbnail at the bottom) “msalisonangel” is striking an obvious “model pose”. I’d be prepared to call “fake” based on the photos alone.

As it turned out, the reason this profile was identified as fake was because a member recognized the photos as being those of a well-known soft-porn star.

2) The language. The title and “About Me” language is designed both to have an extremely broad appeal and to make the woman appear eager for sex. She wants “a soulmate for the eventide years of her life” (and seriously, what 22-year-old even uses the word “eventide”?) and yet also says “Committment-wise, I’m pretty casual”. The language also feels quite forced and unnatural (not to mention “confused”), and the opening “Sexually, I’m an explorer” gambit should ring alarm bells.

Common online dating scams

How much fun was that? Of course, fake profiles are just the tip of the iceberg as far as online dating scams go. The bait to tempt you, if you will. We also want to be more broadly aware of what sort of scams fake profiles might lure us into, so here’s an overview of the more common ones to watch out for:

The damsel in distress scam

A (usually female) site member with an attractive photo claims to be in need/trouble, and requests that you help her out financially. A variation on this scam is the travel scam, where the person claims to need money so they can afford to travel to meet you, with a view to pursuing a long term relationship.

The phishing scam

Email from contacts that press you for detailed personal information such as your financial information, your home address, full name, phone number, or social security number are almost certainly scammers. These people either try to scam the online dating users outright, using the information to masquerade as the victim for pecuniary gain, or are collecting the data to sell to some third party who will exploit the data in the same way.

The laundering scam

The fraudster may not ask you for any money directly. Instead, he may ask you to cash money orders or cheques and to wire (or perhaps Western Union) him the proceeds, or some fraction of the proceeds. The money orders or cheques will later turn out to be fake or stolen and you will be left out of pocket and possibly be held responsible for receiving stolen funds.

Prostitute scam

Prostitutes advertising illegally on dating sites tend to be straightforward. They place profiles to solicit business. Such profiles are usually easily recognized by sleazy user names, suggestive photos, and explicit self-descriptions. They don’t waste time letting you know what they are after.

Phonesex scam

The person will ask you to call them, and after you do you‘ll get a bill in the mail for hundreds of dollars. In the United States such phone numbers will start with 1-900, but pay lines in other countries will have different numerical prefixes. The scammer in this case might try to allay your fears of having to pay for a call by making up some story explaining why you won’t have to. Don’t be fooled.

The “Nigerian” postal scam

The person pretends to be a relative of a deceased government official or some other dignitary who asks for your help in a financial transaction. Sometimes mention of a lottery having been won, but the winner being able to collect the winnings himself for some reason. The author of the email will offer a huge reward if you help him to transfer a large sum of money. It’s called the Nigerian postal scam because the first such scams originated in Nigeria, but the scam “type” has now spread, and may originate from other countries as well.

I hope I’ve given you some good pointers and ideas about what to look out for in profiles so you don’t fall victim to online dating scams. Just to lighten the mood a little, though, check out this “Nigerian Scam Dating” parody site–it’s good for a chuckle or two.

Stay smart and safe out there!

Quick Summary:

Hookup potential: 4/5 Features: 3/5 Design: 3/5 Content: 4/5

• User-friendly navigation
• Different kinds of memberships
• Member profiles verified manually
• Good search functionality

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Some people may be turned off by the name of the site, but the site is simply being honest about its purpose. Hornymatches.com is a place for horny individuals to hook up. Unlike a mainstream dating site, Hornymatches.com does not offer us any weary platitudes about love, the meaning of life, or other pseudo-profundities. If you want a no-nonsense adult dating site, then Hornymatches.com will be to your liking.

Another thing I like about Hornymatches is that all their member profiles are manually verified. So what does this mean exactly? Unlike other sites that cheat members by posting fake profiles (and that allow fake profiles to be submitted), you will be unlikely to find a single bogus profile at Hornymatches.com. The site’s verification process is done by real people who check each and every profile thoroughly.

The site’s layout is simple and clean. Pages are basically white. The site has a single means of communication with other members – internal email. This email function, however, is exclusive to members. You may find this annoying, as it means that the site’s functionality is pretty limited if you’re on a free membership, but HornyMatches is hardly alone in taking this “tease don’t please” approach. You can at least browse and search profiles for free.

The “local” search is confined to a radius of thirty miles from your location, and searching is done through checkboxes and keywords. I also tried the site’s Cupid function, which allows for more accurate “matched” results.

The links for Navigation are Home, My Account, Search, Browse, Webcam chat, Cupid, Network, and Help. As a member, you’ll find that your main page is quite similar in appearance to a webmail inbox. On the left part of the screen, you’ll find new messages, total messages, new winks, total winks, new additions, and total additions. At the right side, you’ll get to see the exact number of people logged in–I don’t know if this is the number of paid members or both members and guests combined.

A positive attribute of the site is that Hornymatches.com can be viewed in German, Italian, Portuguese, French, Spanish, and English. You can upload videos, do database searches, and view other members’ profiles. What about free membership? If you haven’t paid the site’s membership fees, you can only see a profile picture. The profile is simple: age, picture, what he or she is looking for, and lifestyle particulars.

One thing I look for in a dating site is the ability to block emails. Nothing irritates me more than a person I’ve crossed off my list sending me messages repeatedly. This site allows members to block emails from selected people.

Hornymatches.com’s membership pricing plans are at the expensive end, but their membership database size is huge, which implies to me that people are enthusiastic about the site. First-timers may feel that memberships are overpriced, but I think that after a few days checking the site out, chances are they would find the money was worth the admission. In rounded figures, the costs are: $30/month (silver-recurring), $35 (gold-recurring), $60/3 months (silver-recurring).

The site has 2 kinds of memberships: silver and gold. For a higher-status membership, you could do a more sophisticated searching, get a faster technical support, and get access to other features. The site’s browsing functionality is excellent. You select the country, then the province, and then you go to the categories. Try it, and you’ll discover that browsing and navigating are user-friendly.

All things considered, this site does a good job of allowing people from all walks of life to meet others for fetishes, casual sex, flirting, or platonic friendship. You have a good chance of finding others in your area who share your passions and interests. It doesn’t matter if you’re very gay or very straight or even bisexual, Hornymatches.com will hook you up.

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2. Average penis sizes from around the world.
3. Craigslist hooker crackdown basically not working.
4. Man has a 40 case history of suing “ladies only” promotions as discriminatory.
5. Fox TV: “Keep fucking that chicken!”
6. Couple robbed while having sex in dumpster.
7. Voyeurs meet exhibitionists: a New York Love Story
8. George Clooney would rather have WHAT than a facebook page?
9. Dear… God. I thought he was MYTH.
10. Naked blonde storms construction site.

Came across the following hilarious Penthouse forum stories from the mid-90s, courtesy of Monica Hamburg and Kimli. Reprinted here in all their mirth-inducing glory:

I have an enlightening experience to relate to your readers. After reading about and trying some of your ways of jacking off, I have found my own unique way.

I put a banana into an empty blender, then I add a good amount of rum. I turn the blender on and mix until the concoction is mildly chunky. Next, I insert my hard cock into the blender and turn it back on – slowly at first, then faster (those of you who are especially large, watch out for the blades at the bottom!)

The first time I tried this, I found it to be the most electrifying experience I ever had, and I came like I’d never come before! My wife loves to lick me clean, then we share the enriched drink. It tastes like no other.

– Name and address withheld.

I was always afraid of writing to “Forum” about what turns me and my girlfriend on, because I always felt that it was a bit perverted. But after reading this magazine, I’ve come to the awareness that nothing is perverted.

When my girlfriend doesn’t feel like cooking dinner, which recently has been practically every night, I stop off at McDonald’s and buy four Big Macs. Two are for dinner, and the other two help give us sexual pleasure.

After eating, we take the Big Macs into our bedroom, undress, and get into bed. My girlfriend takes one Big Mac and spreads the special sauce on my cock. Then she takes the all-beef patties, forms a tube around my dick with them, and proceeds to jerk me off. I just can’t describe how great my orgasms are because of the unique texture of the patties.

While she’s doing this, I grab the other Big Mac. I make a simple dildo out of a patty and jerk her off with it, using the sauce as lubricant. Lately, she hasn’t needed the lube, because she comes just *looking* at a Big Mac.

After we’re both finished, we lick each other clean. I wonder if any other people enjoy this type of sex. If not, I would seriously recommend it to everyone.

– Name and address withheld.

I have just begun receiving your magazine, and I am extremely glad I that do! I was getting worried that I was some sort of sick pervert, until your magazine brought me to the realization that what is fun is right. The letter that I was glad to see was from a man who described the enjoyment he and his wife received from the use of Big Macs as sexual tools. I also have a food fetish that gives me great pleasure. I live in a dormatory on a large college campus where one of the most common foods is pizza. One night, when my roommate was out on a date, I ordered a large pizza (cheese only), and I had eaten half of it when I got a wild idea. I laid the still slightly warm pizza on my bed and got undressed, then I slowly lay down on the warm, gooey cheese surface of the pie. I proceeded to move back and forth until I was just about to cum, then I raised myself up and saw and felt the gooey cheese “fingers” still clinging to my erect penis. I had the best climax I ever had. Now, at least once a week, I order a cheese pizza and truly enjoy myself!

– Name and address withheld.

Quick Summary:

Hookup potential: 4/5 Features: 3/5 Design: 4/5 Content: 4/5

• A full roster of activities, categories, and relationship types
• Impressive number of members
• Extensive and impressive functionality
• Site available in many languages

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The tagline of this site is “sexy personals for passionate singles.” I am not going to say that this sums up the site completely, but it is still an accurate statement with regard to the site’s positioning. Passion.com has at least 30 million members (and counting), and if reviews are to be believed, over 125,000 members are logged on at Passion.com at any given time. This site is for singles (sexy or not) in search of steamy encounters; however, if all you want is platonic friendship, then that’s also possible.

In this day and age of a thousand “adult dating” sites showing pictures of their members in all their naked glory, I have always been impressed by sites that are more suggestive than bluntly pornographic, and Passion.com is one such site.

Among the first things that impressed me before I became a member was the site’s “classy” look and presentation. The majority of the pictures are on the coy side, and while this is something I personally appreciate, it is understandable that some people would be confused by it, since Passion.com is definitely an “adult” matchmaking service.

The site’s service is offered in 10 different languages, and it’s very easy to change it to another language: just click a button. The languages available include Filipino, Korean, Dutch, Italian, Chinese, and German. This really gives the site an edge over those of its competitors (most of them) whose webmasters/managers are under the illusion that everybody on this planet knows how to speak English.

Interested in becoming a member? Here are the costs: $19.95 for one month, $35.95 for 3 months, and $99.95 for a year. I do not know about you, but I like freebies, so what can you do on the site with a free membership? The following user features are free: posting a profile, doing a basic search, browsing through profiles, sending instant messages, chatting, replying to emails, saving to hotlist, and answering questions on Passion.com’s online magazine.

Premium membership gives access to all of the following features: advance search capabilities, seeing ICQ/AIM/MSN IDs of members in particular networks, makes your profile show up at the top in search listings, gives you priority in email/tech support, allows full “Cupid” email for new people, and supplies personalized list of suggested members.

Profiles have considerable depth, including sections for details of an individual’s aspirations, lifestyle, hobbies, and “hotter” stuff like fantasies or sexual preferences. The site even has a personality test.

The site has a number of ways for you to reach out to fellow members. I tried them all: chat rooms, webcam, instant messaging. At any time of the day, the chat rooms are packed. There are about 30 rooms, organized thematically. For an extra payment, you can have live 1 on 1 phone conversations with fellow members. The beauty of such phonecalls is that they are totally anonymous–you do not need to give out your home number. Moreover, there are no long distance costs as with regular phone services.

For me, the site seems to have a lot going for it. Firstly, it can boast the largest client base in the industry. Secondly (for the women) there are more male profiles on Passion.com than profiles of female members. Thirdly, there are quite a number of relationship types catered for, unlike other sites I’ve seen which do not have sections for members of the LGBT community. The classifications include: gay, lesbian, straight, group, bi-curious, bisexual, and heterosexual. In terms of “sought-for activity” categories, Passion.com has erotic chat, intimate relationship, discreet relationship, 1 on 1 sex, cross dressing, exhibitionism, and voyeurism, just to name a few. It’s good to see that the site caters to members with varied and exotic tastes.

The site’s Customer Support is available 24/7. For straight guys, one downside to getting membership in Passion.com is that there are more male than female profiles. However, this is a feature that is theoretically dynamic. It is the case today, but months from now, who knows? It might be the women who’ll be have the harder time finding playmates.

Get your free membership to Passion.com today, and decide for yourself!

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7. The spiny anteater’s four-headed penis.
8. Family values Republican likes spanking his mistress.
9. The Coolidge effect — whereby males show continuously high sexual performance given the introduction of new receptive females
10. One in every 33 women who attend worship services regularly has been the target of sexual advances by a religious leader.

Okay so JUST A LITTLE CYNICAL MMKAY, but it’d be bad form if all the gender-stereotyping skewering on this blog went in one directions, so:

Quick Summary:

Hookup potential: 3/5 Features: 3/5 Design: 3/5 Content: 3/5

• Limited content
• No adult clips
• Navigation is fast and easy

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Before I became a member of the LocalSex.com site, my first impression was that the site was clean but boring in terms of its layout. The pages are principally laid out in white, with only a few navigation links.

After becoming a member, I found out that, yes, the site is cleanly presented, but it is not a boring place. Let me give you an overview: in creating your profile, you would be asked to provide a number of details. What category of pleasure seeker you fall into (for example, Man Seeking Man), your postal code, ethnicity, age, height, and weight. When you go to Messages, you find out that the site is affiliated with Adult Friend Finder–the site has a link going to that dating site, and tries to “upsell” you to it periodically (though not aggressively). I liked that among the categorical choices offered to you are Couple Seeking Men and Couple Seeking Women. It bodes well for the prospect of finding someone here who will indulge even slightly left-of-mainstream fantasies.

When uploading your pictures, the site has a number of directives. First, the picture has to be less than 1MB. Second, the photo must not have explicit nudity (which may raise the eyebrows of some people since this site is an “adult dating” one, after all.) However, I think this is a way for the site to explain that it is primarily an adult dating service and not really a porn site. There are some individuals who think that there is no demarcation line between these two genres, but trust me, there is. LocalSex.com is a site that proves it.

Other evidence that this site is sticking with adult matchmaking instead of merely providing adult-related content includes the following: first, there are no videos, not even teasers. (At least I could not find any, and I am a member.) Another is that there are no galleries of hotties clad in bikinis or prancing about semi-naked. I don’t know about you, but it is a refreshing change for me as a reviewer of such sites to find one that is honest and focused. LocalSex.com does not pretend or try to come across as something that it is not.

Does this mean you’d get bored on the site? If adult content is what you are really after (more than hooking up) then the answer is a resounding “yes”. You will have to go to another site to satisfy your craving for porn. However, if meeting prospective fuckdates is really your primary goal, then this site will serve the purpose. Just be aware that it is (probably deliberately) not as sophisticated as some of the leading/major hookup sites, so don’t sign up expecting too much in terms of high-end features or bonus adult content.

At the bottom of the page are some other clickables; one of these is the Casual Encounters blog. Obviously, it’s a blog site focused on adult dating. It has a lot of content, much of it humorous, so it’s a good way to kill time while waiting for something or somebody on a lazy afternoon.

In terms of customer service or support, LocalSex.com has a “Contact Us” section. The site’s primary means for members to communicate with the webmasters is through email. Just email webmasterATlocalsex.com if you want to get in touch with the people running LocalSex.com. I don’t get the feeling they have a large staff, but the queries I sent through were responded to in a timely and professional manner.

One amusing aspect of LocalSex.com that I haven’t noticed present in other adult matchmaking sites is that in its Safety and Privacy Section, the site warns its members not to exchange numbers with other members in the site. While this may seem impressive because it shows that LocalSex.com as a caring entity, I don’t think this warning should have been posted. After all, this is a dating site. People want to make contact. Another warning they give to members is to “never give other members money.” I think it’s a good thing that the webmasters put this one up. There is also a “Protect Children” clause, which outlines the responsibility that members have to combat child exploitation. Overall, these warnings make LocalSex.com feel like a responsible, no-nonsense matchmaking site.

I think the site has a long way to go if it wants to become a stronger competitor in the genre. Adult content, perhaps? LocalSex.com could also add some more “life” to its overall design. Putting in more colors does not mean compromising the site’s simple design and layout. The best thing which could be said, at least from the perspective of spendthrifts and those with money problems, is that membership at LocalSex.com is completely free.

1. Doing it with Hitler to promote AIDS awareness.
2. Fun with legal breast exposure.
3. It turns out you can tell whether a woman is vaginally orgasmic by… the way she walks.
4. Sometimes it’s okay to use a kitten to masturbate. Really.
5. The Aristocrats – the Southpark version
6. In Austria, Fucking is just Fucking.
7. Learning English. You should.
8. Man attempts to kill his wife for waking him up on their wedding night.
9. When is public nudity a crime?
10. No condom handy? Try alcohol made from stewed beaver’s testicles.

Came across this today at blogofhilarity. There are no words. (But I lol’d.)

Quick Summary:

Hookup potential: 3/5 Features: 3/5 Design: 4/5 Content: 3/5

• Excellent search capabilities with filters for various profile attributes such as age, interests, location, photos, etc.
• Comprehensive messaging features including email, webcam chat and instant messaging.
• Live webcam feeds from five randomly chosen members on your home page.
• Some members are clearly sex workers; need to be careful about scams.

The Full Story:

Just looking at the sign-up page of Fling, you get the impression that it is an extension of a porn site. Some of the pictures of female members shown on the page to serve as “teasers” are clearly professionals working in the Internet sex industry. Once you log in, you are immediately presented with five webcam feeds “randomly selected” from members. One should be careful here because some of these members with live webcam feeds are likely to be camgirls. (Not to entirely discount the possibility, of course, that some of them are really hot chicks out there looking for dirty sex.)

The actual signup process for Fling is straightforward; the registration form has only one page, and filling it out takes approximately one minute. Only a little personal information is required to sign up because you can fill in more details after your account is created (this is how it should work with all dating sites, in my opinion.) While the basic membership is offered without charge, there are certainly advantages to “Silver” or “Gold” membership. A Silver member is able to see bigger profile photos and is able to create a hot list (known in fling as a “black book”.) As a Silver member, you can also use webcam, chat, and internal email to make contact with other Silver and Gold members. It should be noted that free members will not be able to reply to you, only paying members. As a Gold member, you also have the added benefit of being given preferential ranking in other members’ search results. And with a “gold” membership, even free members are able to respond to you.

Basically, the purpose of Fling is to provide people who are interested in a casual sexual encounter with a chance to get in touch with like-minded individuals. At first glance, this would appear to be no great challenge—the membership database is large, and many of the photos depict attractive members in various states of undress. I had the feeling, though, that I had seen a number of the photos before. In porn sites. The really attractive part of what Fling offers though, is their guarantee. Fling will gift you three months of membership if you are unable to hook up with anyone during your first three months. A great guarantee—a unique one in the adult dating industry, so far as I’m aware.

With regard to its search capabilities, Fling provides more than adequate functionality. You can filter results based on sex, age range, body type, fetishes, height, whether the member has a picture or not, etc. All potentially important factors–especially location (duh!)

Fling also offers some innovative features not usually found in adult dating sites, such as webcam chat with other fling members and the ability to allow access to your sexually explicit video feeds and pictures in a granular way. You can also turn off the presentation of sexually explicit videos and photos on your home page by going into “safe mode.” I really like that they’ve made the effort to protect privacy–others will not know about my real identity unless you choose to share that information with them. The site also offers some “porn site” features, such as adult movies.

The messaging features of Fling are exceptionally good. Privacy-protected email messaging, instant messaging, and live video chat. For easy ice-breaking, pre-written messages can be used, though using your own seems like a better idea. The best communication feature of all is the video chat room, where you can have cam-to-cam interaction with just one member or with several members at once.

Overall, Fling is one of the better sites for organizing a casual sexual encounter. The hook-up guarantee, for me, is the real clincher. But don’t take my word for it. Check out this Fling member’s personal testimony. And then create a free account and decide for yourself.