How to Find Sex: the Art of the One Night Stand – Part 16 “Comedown: After Sex”

Lyla Marsh, Author and Sexpert

Lyla Marsh, Author and Sexpert

Comedown: After Sex

I’m dedicating a whole section to this, because how you treat her after sex is just as important as during sex. You may think that if you’ve given her a great orgasm your work is done. You may roll over and slip into blissful, trouble-free dreams. Wait! Just as your physiological makeup differs from hers and makes your needs during sex slightly different, so it is after sex. Your body feels limp, and sleepy. All you want to do now is roll over. You’ve had sex, you wanted it like crazy and now it’s over you’re ready to think about something else.

It may not surprise you to hear that women are usually the opposite. They’re not sleepy, though their bodies feel very warm and relaxed, and their mind is still contemplating the sex. Their bodies are saying: “That felt really nice. I just had sex with someone and it was great, now I just need a bit of reassurance that he still cares about me and wasn’t just using my body.”

So if you roll over at this point and start snoring, her body says, “What?! He was just using me, he won’t even hold me for a minute!” She feels vulnerable and lonely. All you need to do to avoid this is hold her for 5-10 minutes, stroke her body a little bit (her neck, back, arms and face) and murmur a few reassuring things in her ear. It will mean a lot to her, and she’ll probably decide to sleep with you again, so make this a habit after sex.

After sleeping with the same partner for a while, you may be looking for new things to introduce to liven things up a bit, or just to share with her to deepen your relationship. In the next section, we will look at a few ideas for making great sex even better.

2 Responses to “How to Find Sex: the Art of the One Night Stand – Part 16 “Comedown: After Sex””

  1. Daniel Paul Edward Tyson-Young
    March 3, 2010 at 5:29 pm #

    I can remember once when I had sex with someone in partucular, I was so relaxed the next morning, when my midnight lover said to me he was going to jukk himself, it just went straught over the top of my head.
    Although that is, when he said it again, all I need to do, was, stand nearley behind him, put bith hands on his shoulders, and say ”No your not.” And he was fine.
    What I should have said was, ” When you mix paracetamol with alcohol, it will produce a near amount of a chemical in your brain, similar to cocain, and the next day after you will feel extreamly depressed, and have a very similar come down to cocain, as well as a hang over from alcohol.”
    I personally, get my highs from drunkung large amounts of Sambooka together with Vodka abd cocke.
    And if I really want to go to the extreams of poly acohol use, I will have Vodka and Redbull on top of that.
    Un my binge drinking days, After a peroid of eight houres I would either start to feel tired or start to feel a little hung over, so then I would drink copiuos amounts og WKD, another poly alcohol combnation.
    The only differenation between WKD, and Vodka and Redbull is, that WKD contains alcohol and caffeine, Vodka and Red Bull has both Alcohol, Caffine, and Tiamine.
    All of which produces an affect very similar to a small to medium dose of extactcy, without the come down accosiated with such a ridicualass, perfetic, discusting drug such as cocain.
    Derinking alcohol and takeing paracetmol is not only dangoures, but it is litterally like swallowing broken glass, as one parcetamol actually makes your liver bleed.
    I would not recomend a young drinker all of a suden turning round and drinking a bottle of Vodka, and an eight pack of red bull, together with 12 WKDs and 8 VK’s. as this could possible end up in the person being very sick, and falling out into a coma after four or five houres.
    I was only able to do, and exceed this at 17 because I graduallt built my aclohol intake up.
    A serious 2005 clubber, like me and my good freind Suann wear, use to go out and spend £150-200+ in one night, in the space of four or five houres.
    Now people unfortunatley do not have any sence what so ever, and proberbly spend the same amount on Cocain, instead of combining thear alchol properley, with drugs such as caffine, tiamine, and glutamine togther with E coylourings, and other couerlings wich are close to the drug Sadam 1, and Danceing thear tits of euphorically, in a state of unity, euphoria, one ness, and openess,
    Not only with the openess, but an openess on a ground level, such as ”Hey Im on the Dole” ” So what, I love you !!!! ”
    Instead of all this bull shit such as ” I’ve got a job running a bar, my keans cost £200, my shirt was £50, oh, I also spent £250 on 3 grams of cocain, how much have you spent” and ”oh, my god. You are so up market, let me go to your toilet and powder my nose”
    Well let me tell you this to any up market pricks reading this, the new 1990 is back.
    In a year, thear will be a new summer of love.
    Just remember this, when you are danceing for 7 days solid, with the person who kicked your head in at school, me and my generation helped create what you are about to have.
    This of course, the last bit that is, is not intended at the person who I had sex with.

  2. Daniel Paul Young Hitler
    March 16, 2010 at 5:47 pm #

    I love sex, and I love makeing love. I want to feel the twap embrace me.

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