Go somewhere like a coffee shop, for a few drinks, or somewhere you can talk. For women talking is a huge aphrodisiac. If you’re both active, you could go hiking. You could go sightseeing together. The point is, don’t spend a lot of money on this first date.
Don’t go somewhere where there is loud music, don’t go to a movie. You may have a good time but no progress is being made in your seduction.
(One tip: If you meet her friends or family, make an effort to impress them, because their opinion of you will matter to her. Try and remember their names.)
The most important thing to remember is listen to her. I can’t stress this enough as so many men drone on about themselves the whole time on a first date. Why would she want to see you again if you did this? To learn more about your experiences as a head prefect at high school? No way! Listen to her and she’ll be dying to see you again. Show her that you remember what she said at your first meeting.
The point is that it is not difficult to please a woman if you pay attention to her particular needs. Then she will pay attention to yours.
In order to get a second date, the first date should be light, a bit mysterious, and not have any bad feelings. Think about what you want the outcome of this date to be. Most likely you’ll want it to lead on to another meeting, so during this time you’ll want to create some romantic feelings. You do this through asking the odd romantic question which stems from some story you tell. Remember you need to contextualize. To ask her out of the blue what her first kiss was like will seem abrupt and make her uncomfortable. You need to create a reason for asking, such as a discussion (real or made-up) that you were having with your flatmate, then ask her opinion. You’ll get to learn her attitude to sex and love, and also create an association in her mind between you and romance. If you stimulate romantic feelings in her, you’ll do just that.
Another aim of the first date is to find out what she likes to do, which will enable you to plan the second date with her enjoyment in mind.